Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 How did you feel about doing that? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 i felt that was interesting and pretty excited and feel some pleasure my heart to know that hurting you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 But you could have talked to me about it before you did it. I told you that we could have an open marriage if you really wanted. You only had to discuss it with me, yet you didn't. Is there some reason you didn't talk to me about it? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Yes,i think because i wanted just get fun well,and it wouldnt hurt you the same Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 So you enjoyed hurting me. Is that the only time you felt pleasure from hurting other people? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I enjoy hurting peopole,not hurting you once,i also hurt you in other ways before, and i was enjoy hurting my previous bf Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I'd HEARTILY suggest that the two of you take this off the forum, and into a marriage counselor's office...ASAP. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 When so many women showed interest in me, how did you feel? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I felt jealous that so many women liked you,and i jealous all other women,and i wanted prove that i was just as attractive as you.and when so many other women showed interested in you,i be mean to them Link to post Share on other sites
jwi71 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Vnqsh, You are NOT trying to improve yourself or your M. You are here to berate your W. These questions are not designed to improve anything but rather to tear her down and for you to be "right". One could make a case that this is subtle emotional abuse. Both of you need MC or a divorce. Mods, this thread needs to be locked and closed. Nothing positive can come from this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 What do you think is the reason I am so hurt and upset right now? Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 The reason was i was a selfish bad woman to hurt you,and you didnt know that,and you found out,so hurt Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Vnqsh, You are NOT trying to improve yourself or your M. You are here to berate your W. These questions are not designed to improve anything but rather to tear her down and for you to be "right". One could make a case that this is subtle emotional abuse. Both of you need MC or a divorce. Mods, this thread needs to be locked and closed. Nothing positive can come from this thread. Jwi, I'm just asking her to tell me the truth to the questions and accusations that other people have been asking me thanks to her instigations. I know how it appears, but I'm just asking her for a little honesty, that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Actually, I was just hurt by the fact that you seem to get such pleasure from my own pain. You hurt me on purpose and I can't believe you do that, but you do. It seems so strange. There's no one I can turn to who will even understand or believe what goes on in this relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Hon, do you feel I am abusing you? Am I forcing you to say anything? Is anything we've just discussed not simply the truth? Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Jwi, I'm just asking her to tell me the truth to the questions and accusations that other people have been asking me thanks to her instigations. I know how it appears, but I'm just asking her for a little honesty, that's all. I fail to see why you think any of us care if she is a liar or not. I doubt anyone can deny the fact that you two are beyond help of the people on here. Proving to a bunch of strangers whose fault it was more in your incredibly f'd up relationship is pointless. It won't solve anything or make you less wrong for each other. Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Again. This is simply not convincing as a back-and-forth between two married people. The OP has consistently characterized his wife as a manipulative person who does what she wants whenever she wants and is possibly BPD - so why on earth would an unstable, volatile person like that come here and meekly answer these lawyerly questions as she is apparently doing? Eh, it's just false. The whole story never made much sense to me, I never believed that either of these people was telling the truth, and to be honest at this point I'm starting to suspect that either they're both playing games with us for their own amusement, or that this is in fact just one person posting who is in desperate need of attention. I too hope the mods will lock this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
notinthemood Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 No,you didnt force me, and they are true, and i want you feel better Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 I fail to see why you think any of us care if she is a liar or not. I doubt anyone can deny the fact that you two are beyond help of the people on here. Proving to a bunch of strangers whose fault it was more in your incredibly f'd up relationship is pointless. It won't solve anything or make you less wrong for each other. You're right. I guess I'm just emotionally exhausted. To top it off, she gets on this forum when I pleaded with her not to do it and starts messing with my head. It's just totally pushed me over the edge. I thought maybe there was some way to undo the damage she's done, but it's only getting worse from this point. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Again. This is simply not convincing as a back-and-forth between two married people. The OP has consistently characterized his wife as a manipulative person who does what she wants whenever she wants and is possibly BPD - so why on earth would an unstable, volatile person like that come here and meekly answer these lawyerly questions as she is apparently doing? Eh, it's just false. The whole story never made much sense to me, I never believed that either of these people was telling the truth, and to be honest at this point I'm starting to suspect that either they're both playing games with us for their own amusement, or that this is in fact just one person posting who is in desperate need of attention. I too hope the mods will lock this thread. Perhaps. But in the time I've spent on here I've learnt it is pointless to argue with the less truthful posters. Our opinion against their word equals a stupid argument that no-one wins. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 Again. This is simply not convincing as a back-and-forth between two married people. The OP has consistently characterized his wife as a manipulative person who does what she wants whenever she wants and is possibly BPD - so why on earth would an unstable, volatile person like that come here and meekly answer these lawyerly questions as she is apparently doing? Eh, it's just false. The whole story never made much sense to me, I never believed that either of these people was telling the truth, and to be honest at this point I'm starting to suspect that either they're both playing games with us for their own amusement, or that this is in fact just one person posting who is in desperate need of attention. I too hope the mods will lock this thread. And crappy people with *****ty responses like this aren't making things better for me. I give up. Everything I say or do is false now. The wife first drives me crazy and then totally taints what little outlet I can find for my emotions. I'm better off putting a shotgun to my head. I'm outta here. Laterz! Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Perhaps. But in the time I've spent on here I've learnt it is pointless to argue with the less truthful posters. Our opinion against their word equals a stupid argument that no-one wins. How right you are! Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 And crappy people with *****ty responses like this aren't making things better for me. I give up. Everything I say or do is false now. The wife first drives me crazy and then totally taints what little outlet I can find for my emotions. I'm better off putting a shotgun to my head. I'm outta here. Laterz! er...from what i saw, if this thread is a true representation of your relationship, you basically asked her a bunch of questions that she answered exactly how you'd like. so i'm trying to figure out how your "wife" "taints" anything at all. she said precisely what you wanted her to say after you invited her onto a thread to do exactly that. if that's her driving you crazy then i'm flummoxed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vnqsh2001 Posted January 6, 2009 Author Share Posted January 6, 2009 How right you are! nah, you guys win this time. I quit. You're right. It's all a bunch of BS. I'm nothing but full of BS. It's all my fault. I did every fracking thing in the book wrong and on top of that I tried to mislead all you fine intelligent people. Thanks for seeing through me. I've finally seen the light. Hallelujah! Praise the Lord. I'm saved. Now I can just go kill myself. What a help you were. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 nah, you guys win this time. I quit. You're right. It's all a bunch of BS. I'm nothing but full of BS. It's all my fault. I did every fracking thing in the book wrong and on top of that I tried to mislead all you fine intelligent people. Thanks for seeing through me. I've finally seen the light. Hallelujah! Praise the Lord. I'm saved. Now I can just go kill myself. What a help you were. Oh please stop being a drama queen. You need a backbone not a shotgun. Your wife is toxic, divorce her. Stop drinking, get a hooker, eat a **** load of icecream (go to the gym to work off said icecream) and listen to incredibly loud music. Mourn the end of the relationship and get your balls back. Take your life back from this sick situation. You are not a bad person just one that has been damaged by his marriage. Own that. See someone, talk it through. Don't try to convince a bunch of strangers that it's all her fault and she's a bad person. Perhaps it is and she sure sounds like it. That won't help you. Link to post Share on other sites
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