After 2 years,?

[littlebopeep]

A quick run down of my situation.We were together nearly 2 years,both still in college and very much in love and without much warning he tells me that because of a couple of arguments he needs to be on his own,

 

2 months later he says he misses me and wants to try again and we are happy for another 2 years and then he has to go on a placement with university for a year.

 

5 weeks after going away he breaks it off again saying he loves me but its the best thing to do because of the distance and arguments it would cause.

 

I go n/c and apart from a few texts he sends nothing.I move on and when he hears about it is upset but says he didnt expect me to wait and that he hopes im happy.Its 2 years since the split and he sends a happy new year text .I reply saying the same.He then sends one saying I will always be the one for him.I havent replied,he was probably drunk but why after 2 years.I still think of him because when we were together he did treat me good but the past is the past.Whether he meant it or not,just wanted to say that no contact does work so for all broken hearted,begging and pleading wont work they need to know what life is like without you.

[Frankasy]

You are in such a perfect situation, perfect but also kinda hard one since you are viewing a few roads where each one could change your life in one way or the other.

I mean you got a person who loves you, you seem to love him too, you've had a good time in general in the past and now he wants to get back with you. Think of the possibilities, you get back with him, this time there will probably be no more break up and you might end up with each other, you don't reply to him or blow him off, the chance of you and him being together will be of course 0 and you might find someone else. I'm pretty sure that you want to marry someone, have a family, good life, a typical happy ending. Sometimes life doesn't always have a happy ending, sometimes you only get one chance in life and you are forced to grab that chance or not, sometimes you get more, sometimes you get none. See where I'm going?

My answer would be that first you two talk it out, I mean you have had a good time with him when you were together. The past is the past, true but the past also serves as a reflection on the present and future sometimes. All couples have arguments, nothing new here and he sorta did the right thing when he broke up with you in university cause at that point he probably didn't see you and him being in a relationship since you were apart from each other. Call him back, ask him to meet you and talk it out, be honest with him, ask everything that is unclear in your mind and in the end you'll have a much clearer idea if you two should get back together or not.

 

Also thanks for the tip, the no contact tip. I recently suffered a big loss and sometimes it is very hard for me to live in the present so I go back in the past when I had good times with the one person I loved. I'm trying my best to get over her so far I've followed the no contact path and it is working(Day 3).