Isolde Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Dumb-ass that I am, I signed up for a month of match. So far, I've received a couple emails and winks from people that are either really old or clearly incompatible. None of my "daily 5" have yet been people I'm interested in. I am worried that my $40 will go to waste by the end of the month. I don't have a pic yet but I like my profile. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
CandyGirlXO Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I have never done match before, but the only thing I would suggest would be to put a pic up ASAP! A lot of men probably won't even bother to look at your profile, because they might be wondering why you don't have a pic up. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
fral945 Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I have never done match before, but the only thing I would suggest would be to put a pic up ASAP! A lot of men probably won't even bother to look at your profile, because they might be wondering why you don't have a pic up. Good luck! +1. Your e-mails will probably multiply about 10x after you put up a pic. I ignore profiles without a picture and would imagine most other guys do as well. You can sound great in writing, but if the physical attraction isn't there it won't matter. Since you're female, you will most likely receive tens to hundreds of winks and e-mails in a month (depending on how physically attractive you are). At least this has been the impression I have gotten from talking to women on there that have used the service. The hardest part for most women is weeding through the e-mails and winks to find guys they would want to date. You should be proactive as well if you want to get your money's worth. Don't wait for the guys to message you. Look for them and let them know you are interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 why would u have no pic thats crazy. Any ways didn't I offer to fly you out to visit me? Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I agree with the others - you need a pic. You can easily obscure it enough to make sure you are not recognized, while showing enough to attract interest. To maximize the benefit you get, make sure you are very detailed/specific in your profile. Tell as much as you can think may be of interest (or be a turn off to the wrong guy). Stay current on your emails/winks. A month is not a lot of time - and once you post that pic, you'll be inundated, so if you really hope to meet someone truly "dateable" you need to do a lot of work - I believe I was on Match over a year before I met my SO. I kept spreadsheets detailing his profile name, when he wrote, when I responded, etc. Do NOT do an endless back and forth email trail on any dating site. Two maybe three emails and if interested schedule coffee at a Starbucks (not to close to your house). Spending too much time in cyber communication before meeting IRL guarantees you will build the guys up in your head, to a level they cannot meet. Finally if you have specific age range limit - make sure you put that in your profile as well. I had so many young (and I mean YOUNG) men emailing me that I finally added the following to my profile "if you are below XYZ age, I will not read or respond to your email, so please do not bother." Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
gopher Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Show a variety of pics, one alone....one with your friends and one that is a full body shot. We guys are obviously visual....No glamour shots pics( I know women think these look great, but most of the guys I know don't care for them) No major cleavage pics and no pics laying on a bed unless you want to send that message. A candid pic showing you doing an activity is good too. Just my two cents. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 why would u have no pic thats crazy. Any ways didn't I offer to fly you out to visit me? I don't live in a huge city and I guess I want to maintain privacy. I'm trying to meet people, not show my face to the masses. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 You can easily obscure it enough to make sure you are not recognized, while showing enough to attract interest. Hmm, how do you do that? Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Put a black block over your lower face - just showing your eyes - that works. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 I looked through all 50 pages of profiles in my area. NONE of them look even compatible enough for a DATE. I am not sure extending my subscription is worth it, at all. I'd rather spend the money on alcohol to get drunk. Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 How do you know if you'll be compatible by the way someone looks?! You may think they are not your type - but you really need to give it a chance. You'll go out with a lot of frogs - you'll get thoroughly disgusted, but you will meet one or two people (at least) who will enhance your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 How do you know if you'll be compatible by the way someone looks?! You may think they are not your type - but you really need to give it a chance. You'll go out with a lot of frogs - you'll get thoroughly disgusted, but you will meet one or two people (at least) who will enhance your life. I'm mainly judging by profiles, curious... the way people write, the things they say they're interested in, their jobs. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 I'm mainly judging by profiles, curious... the way people write, the things they say they're interested in, their jobs. Most of the guys sound either really unintelligent (way below the standard writing level on this forum), really full of themselves, or completely anti-establishment. Link to post Share on other sites
MN randomguy Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I looked through all 50 pages of profiles in my area. NONE of them look even compatible enough for a DATE. I am not sure extending my subscription is worth it, at all. I'd rather spend the money on alcohol to get drunk. Could be that match isn't happening in your area. Could set-up a profile at yahoo personals. Most personal sites let you look without sending emails for free if you set-up a profile. If there's nobody that interests you and you're sure of that, cut your losses. no matter how good your profile is it won't make quality appear if its not there. If there is even one. Put some pictures up. One that shows your whole body(not a swimsuit pic. or anything slutty, just to know that you take care of yourself) and a decent picture of your face. Next, remember that you can wink at or email guys. I'd tell a guy that winking is wanking. But, I'd take a good hard look at a girl that showed interest in me. This is of course, provided that you have a picture. If you don't I'd assume the worst. But, given your other posts and what you've said about yourself being young and attractive. I think you spend too much time behind the computer. Go hang out with some friends. Put more time into meeting guys in real life. If the guys in your area really suck, come to the Twin Cities. Oh, BTW, nobody is going to talk about you being on an online dating site. 1 the stigma is gone. 2 whoever opens their mouth has just admitted to trolling dating sites and is equally guilty. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 But, given your other posts and what you've said about yourself being young and attractive. I think you spend too much time behind the computer. Go hang out with some friends. Put more time into meeting guys in real life. I know, I'm working on it, it's so hard though to make friends here, and there are not a lot of single guys. Oh, BTW, nobody is going to talk about you being on an online dating site. 1 the stigma is gone. 2 whoever opens their mouth has just admitted to trolling dating sites and is equally guilty. This is true, but I'm more worried about actual privacy than about the "shame of being discovered." Link to post Share on other sites
crosswordfiend Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I looked through all 50 pages of profiles in my area. NONE of them look even compatible enough for a DATE. I am not sure extending my subscription is worth it, at all. I'd rather spend the money on alcohol to get drunk. This sounds rather discouraging. Do you feel like you fit in in your community? I live in a very large city, but for the most part don't feel comfortable and don't particular like the people outside my boho-artsy part of town. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 This is true, but I'm more worried about actual privacy than about the "shame of being discovered." Huh? What private information are you posting? Link to post Share on other sites
Frostbite Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I'm sorry to hear you're having such bad luck! =( I haven't been on Match before, but before I sign up for anything I always check first to see if anyone catches my eye. If there are a few "good catches", I'll get myself a profile. If not, I move on to another site or hope for some luck in love in real life. If you aren't scared off of dating sites after this, I would recommend True and OKcupid [good personal experiences] and eHarmony [have heard good things about it]. Link to post Share on other sites
MN randomguy Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 OKCupid is a hit with the college crowd around here because its free. The women my age who use it tend to be the ones that are broke due to 3 kids and baby-daddies that don't pay child support:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
gopher Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 OKCupid is a hit with the college crowd around here because its free. The women my age who use it tend to be the ones that are broke due to 3 kids and baby-daddies that don't pay child support:laugh: I think Plentyoffish falls into that same category. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted January 11, 2009 Author Share Posted January 11, 2009 I think Plentyoffish falls into that same category. I agree. I don't know why so many people like POF. It must vary greatly from region to region. To me in order from worst to best it's: POF Craigslist (tons of duds, but I've gotten three dates from it in the past) Tie between match/okcupid Link to post Share on other sites
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