Mag-Lone-Freak Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 I'm trying to find a way to find that special someone finally...Right now I'm relying on dumb luck the wrong way which is being out and about, hoping to cross paths with love at first sight and there being a cool way to chat it up with him...I'm such a dreamer...I've had a few opportunities like this happen and they failed cause I let the negative thinking and fears of humiliating myself take over... I think this is my greatest problem...To just take the risk and approach someone attractive next time... I ask and it IS given sometimes...Where else could I go to meet someone altrenative and arsty of my preference...? Link to post Share on other sites
Sw3etdev1L Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Just have fun!!, stop thinking negative. Go out, have fun....do something new!, join a gym if you are not in one, get into one group of athletics I don't know, making new friends who could present you to someone new. open up to something different. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyBlaze Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 You gave us background on one aspect and then asked a completely different question. You know what you want, you just don't know where to find him. So, there's two questions back to you that'll help us help you. 1. What do you define as alternative? Some people think that owning a CD of The Clash's Combat Rock is alternative, while others have a 5 piercing minimum. What's your definition? This'll help us narrow down places to recommend. 2. Where do you go now? I don't necessarily mean to pick up guys, but unless we know where you already go, we can't recommend other places. On a related note, you mentioned that you've chatted up people before and it failed "cause [you] let the negative thinking and fears of humiliating myself take over". So is the problem really that you don't know where to find the type of guy you're looking for, or that you're not sure how to overcome any self-defeating thoughts you encounter? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mag-Lone-Freak Posted January 7, 2009 Author Share Posted January 7, 2009 Alternative meaning just someone with their own sense of edgy style, into underground comics and films, a sense of humor, kind of dark, likes horror movies... Yes, I think the bigger problem is over coming those negative thoughts... But its also finding someone of my liking I feel a rare attraction to... I don't look into bars here that cater to people into goth industrial and fetish...Now on my free time I like to spend most of it at cafes... Thanks:) Link to post Share on other sites
finkelstein Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 my advise would be to leave your state and move to CT. i could give u like 10 numbers to guys who fit ur description. not to mention a bunch of clubs. granted half are douchebags, but cant allways pick winners. on a more realistic note, you have all the tools you need to turn around your situation. 1. you are beautifull and mysterious, inside and out and i garentee tons ove guys would dream for a shot with you. 2. you reached out. admitting u need to change a way of your typical actions when meeting guys is a step forword. 3. apply it. your "dark" aspect is a major turn on for most guys, and as for the humiliating part, any straight guy with a dick likes chicks so i doubt rejection is likly. so u be the judge of the guy. your in control. be warned some are winners most are losers in the end it all works out if you let it. trust me one day youll be walking to the cafe or bar whatever your poisen is, and youll see the man of your dreams there sippin on a moca latte reading his issue of Skull Comix. hell look up and then his eyes will widen a bit then hell look away. not being discouraged you walk up with a little strut past his table running your fingers allong it as u walk. and you say with a simple yet seductive voice "heyy...". if he isnt gay you got him by the balls in your pocket free to watch all the horror movies in the world while having sex in a coffin. the only one who sees the negitive in you is you, so from this moment on dont stifle your self, be free and ready for when that big moment comes but enough of my ramblin. i hope at least a sentance of my bullsht helps. -Sir Finkelstein- Link to post Share on other sites
motive2002 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Alternative meaning just someone with their own sense of edgy style, into underground comics and films, a sense of humor, kind of dark, likes horror movies... Yes, I think the bigger problem is over coming those negative thoughts... But its also finding someone of my liking I feel a rare attraction to... I don't look into bars here that cater to people into goth industrial and fetish...Now on my free time I like to spend most of it at cafes... Thanks:) You'll have to excuse the bit of smart-ass in this comment, but aren't the networking sites like MySpace and so on just loaded with guys that are more like you? Does it have to be a stranger on the street? I've always had a warped sense of humor, but so do a lot of other people. It's amazing what you'll find when you're not looking for it on the surface. The "5 piercing minimum" comment made me laugh, but it also reminded me that you can't judge a book by it's cover so easily. Someone that looks like a mini-van driving dad of 3 kids could be the dark comic book collector that loves horror films in his private life. You really can't tell unless you get to know someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mag-Lone-Freak Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 Thanks all who responded:) I know, I can be flexible when it comes to how a guy looks, so long as that rare attraction hard to describe is there with the other traits... Sometimes I just need to see him around for a while until I decide to make him my crush...its been that way with most of my crushes in school, NOW...I'm relying on love at first sight which happens RARE... I'll keep in mind the positive thinking next time... I HAVE to, I feel like time is running out and I'm missing out...I'm not so much into online hunting anymore though, unless he has a video...I just haven't had it lucky that way... Link to post Share on other sites
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