freespiritlove Posted January 6, 2009 Share Posted January 6, 2009 Ive been through a series of problems with guys, and the one guy Ive been in and out of a relationship, He lied to me continuously and made me believe i was insecure because of my self esteem and trust issues... However, at the same point come to find out, he was playing me with this one chick that i already even asked him about He told me not to worry, she just wants him and is trying too hard. But I didnt take action... And he told all his friends her friends and herself that he wasnt with me and talked bad about me... until eventually he got her into his bed and had sex with her 3 times in one night... and just lieing to me of everything... i suspected it so... i just figured... -At the same time, this guy, i started talking to, but not so much because i was in a relationship, was texting me on a regular basis and pretty much blowing up my phone... wanted to hang out and get to know me better, and when i would tell him it wouldnt work, he would text and text and beg and ask why etc... and i would give him the chance that we can hang out etc. Well, eventually we hung out (i didnt have any intentions and i told him that) however he did, he wanted to further into something more than a friendship. WE hung out, and had a beautiful time, it was fun, and we had a good connection, He told me he liked me alot and wanted a relationship with me... But having said i was in a relationship, I didnt want to mess things up and make him the other man. or be unfair. However, Inside, i began to like him and i was attracted to him We eventually made love or whatever and, spent the night together, and thats really what he wanted was to have me in his arms, he didntw ant me to leave, he seemed kind of obsessed to be with me... But i didnt make any notion of it... WE took cute pictures together and it was fun really.. but i did i guess cheat on my ex, but, i didnt look at it like that, because, i knew he was being unfaithful to me, i knew he was lieing to me and he was disrespecting me and treating me like trash... It made me want to go out and see what was out there... (i told him me and the bf broke it off because of his lies... I was honest to him, but i did what i did after what he did to me, which i had no idea at the time, i just knew he was talking to the girl, and he was still lieing about it self deceptivly and believeing his lies trying to believe it was truth..) However, he told me he liked the sounds of that, of me not wanting to be unfair to him (the new guy) So, a couple days go by and, he texts me and we talk a bit and he says "everything will work out, we're going to get to know eachother and further this" etc... so on so forth then, when he gets really into working because he works alot, he doesnt talk to me as much, i text him one day and call him and then he finally answers when i call off my house phone and he does say he's interested and that i overthink and that hes going to bed etc... bye blah then i begin to text him more and more because he's left me wondering, and i just... call him a few times... and he doesnt answer back So, I asked him today if he was interested He said "sry, I was but not anymore" "sry, but you texted a thousand times, and called nonstop, so it changed my mind" I dont know what to do But lately ive grown sick and tired of just putting up my wall and then being okay with the person and letting them slide on in to my life and then getting kicked to the curb because of stupid things I dont know what to do, because i know we had something good like i said in my last topic... How DO I GET HIM INTERESTED AGAIN!!! thats my question (does he think im unfaithful after what ive done even though he understood what i was going through? and was still hanging around when i was having my problems with the at the time boyfriend) im not a cheater, i just was treated unfairly and wanted out, and was looking for a way out asap Link to post Share on other sites
soconfused01 Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 you scared him away by coming on WAY too strong. learn to chill out. spend some time away from this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Instead of texting and calling, go meet him. He'd probably be glad to see you. Link to post Share on other sites
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