1yr later....

[porter218]

So I have been back together with my cheating H for 1yr. We have survived and I feel so much better now. for those who have not heard my story...

-H has cheated many times

-first d-day was 6 months after our wedding

-second d-day was 1yr after #1

-third d-day was 1yr after #2

The third d-day was huge!! Many As were uncovered and tons of lies uncovered. I kicked him out that night with out anything but his clothes. I refused to speak to him for months unless it was about his son. after about 6 months we became mildly friendly and took 2 family vacations together. After 9 months I saw enough change in him to try again. I took that huge leap and let him back into my life, but with my eyes wide open. For the first time in our R I can say we now have gone for 1 whole year without a huge argument. I feel more deeply in love with him then ever and he is doing 10times more then ever to make me happy. I haven't forgotten the pain and never will I 100% forgive him but I am happier then ever.

 

I just wanted to share this because I believe with enough effort and love As are survivable. I have been through more horrible things then most of you guys, but we have pieced our M back together. I think that if the love is true and strong then you should at least try before you give up. My 9 month separation was the best thing for us. He truly understood my pain when he found that he couldn't turn to me for love or attention and thought he had lost me forever. We have grown and changed a couple. I see so much pain and broken Ms on this site and I think some of y'all could use a real wake up call to put a little more effort in it.

[porter218]

OK...well I just read 10yrs later and I must say the one glaring difference is that I never ever cared about staying together for the kids. That much I was more then happy to do alone and my H had no say so in that. I would have never let him come back if I felt it was just for our son...If he wanted more access then I would give him that instead of me.

 

Wow..I didn't even know there was a ten yr later post.

[Standbyou]

There is one thing always different:

Woman always much more easier forgiving man than man forgiving wowman..

[porter218]

There is one thing always different:

Woman always much more easier forgiving man than man forgiving wowman..

LOL:lmao:

 

 

Sorry I had to point that out. Yes I agree with what I think you meant to say. I highly doubt my H would be with me still if I had done 1/2 of what he had.

[Standbyou]

There are many reasons:

1. Decide by gene,human are animal acutually, for man, their gene make them want desire extend their gene by female.If a woman cheating on a man, the man will feel very unconfortable the woman should belongs to him might take chance to extend other man's gene.they might dont know that,but its reeally bothering them. normally express they start worry and considering kids are not theirrs. thats why gene test biz customers always man. cause woman can make sure kids are theirs.no sespecious, cause kids from their stomache.

2. Family,female normally more hope make family and marriage complete than man for the kids. So, If a man cheating them once, the first thing of they considering is how i forgive him. and make him be honest and back;unless if the man cheated on her many times non stop, then she start considering eave, stitll ,they hold the hope that man can change.for man,the firrst thing is: Damit,How can she betrayed me like this,i need leave her.how i know that after this, she wont cheat again?I never know.

3.Kids, for woman, Kids can be the first, then husband, the herself.For man, they always think about themseves or their feeling first.

 

Etc,etc.