sweetbrokensoul Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Hi all, I am feeling very discouraged in these hard times and need some advice. I recently lost my job as a waitress right before X-mas, although I was doing fairly well there, they closed down. I picked up another waitressing job where I am not making squat!! I also have a part time job on weekends designated driving, but the pay is up and down...never know when I will do good that night. I am an educated woman with alot of good work experience also in the medical field. I am 2 classes shy of a bachelors in psychology and just cant finish now due to money problems....I DO want to go back and finish and perhaps, say screw it, and just get my nursing degree...cant do much with a BA in psych...I just feel so discouraged...I mean I have applied at so many locations, through friends good words even, and nothing!! Michigan is one of the worst states for unemployment and this economy is getting even worse!! I am a single mom of a exceptional 9 yr. old boy that I am proud to say is doing great. I have always been able to work when he is in school since he started and be home with him in the evenings to do homework, dinner and be on a schedule..If I am working weekends which I do alot, he is with my mom who also takes great care of him. I recently noticed some changes in him and he said he is "depressed", which breaks my heart. But he said he doesnt know why and has nothing to say about it. Im beginning to think my issues are rubbing off on him. He knows it is tough for us right now and I am looking for work. He's also been very understanding, very mature about it actually, and he is so smart. I'm so sick of seeing people with no education, no great work experience get decent paying jobs w/ benefits...WTF? Does anyone care anymore? WHat is this economy coming to? I've always thought if you really want a job, you will have one. Which I do, but not a good one. His father lives out of state and barely helps out as he is collecting SSI for being a lazy, recovering addict whom I left awhile ago for both our own sakes. I have always been strong and kept my head up and thought things will get better. But lately, Im seriously, doubting myself and feeling down, having panic attacks and what not. Words of wisdom? Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Saville Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Wow, that is a real bummer about your situation. We all feel trapped at various times, and our way through the quagmire can be difficult, and feel impossible. I have had many struggles with what to do with my own life, and so, on some level, I can relate. What I do see in my own situation is that I spend too much time thinking about it, and not very much time getting myself into action. Have you thought about enrolling for the courses you need, or signing up for the nursing course, even though at present you don't have the money? The reason I say this is that sometimes when we commit to an action, the other stuff can follow suit. We find a door or two that we couldn't conceive of before we did the action. I'm certainly don't always follow my own advice, but when I have just "put myself out there," amazing things have usually happened. Saville Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Words of wisdom? Yeah focus more on what you have rather than what you don't. A thankful heart keeps it all in perspective. Also don't compare yourself to anyone. What you have may be more than they do so you may, in fact, be richer than they are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetbrokensoul Posted January 8, 2009 Author Share Posted January 8, 2009 Thank you Saville... I cant even enroll with the University right now because they have a hold on my account due to me owing them money and for the 1st time in yrs., financial aid is asking me to bring all my tax papers in for reviewing because I have too many loans out? I dont know why, its getting really hard to even get aid now...sad. Im going to check into other schools with nursing programs tho, that sounds good. Along with this, I did not mention that I even asked for help from this shi**y state for food stamps and health care, by law, they have 30 days to reply and that was back in October! Do you think my social worker or her supervisor has gotten back to me? NOPE! And the states budget crisis is to blame...then again when I went in to apply I saw people sitting there with there name-brand clothing on, jewerly up the ass, talking about how to work the system...nice...so ppl. that really need the help cant get it. I have to take a whole day off to sit in that ghetto office to talk to someone!! I'm not acting like Im better than anyone else, but OMG, can I get a break? I feel as though it wont get better for a long, long time... Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetbrokensoul Posted January 8, 2009 Author Share Posted January 8, 2009 Yeah focus more on what you have rather than what you don't. A thankful heart keeps it all in perspective. Also don't compare yourself to anyone. What you have may be more than they do so you may, in fact, be richer than they are. I try...I try so hard...I am thankful, I know it could be worse...I have given up alot in my past to be a better person today. I just feel like a loser at this point....crappy i know. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I just feel like a loser at this point....crappy i know. You are not a loser. You have a great son and a great mother who both love you dearly. That's more than many. The good thing to know is you are not alone in this. The whole country is facing this dilemma. Maybe it hasn't hit as close to home as it has for you but very likely most will be affected by this. That's what they're predicting anyway. Just do the very best you can. Link to post Share on other sites
MadBambi Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I try...I try so hard...I am thankful, I know it could be worse...I have given up alot in my past to be a better person today. I just feel like a loser at this point....crappy i know. I know times are hard but don't get discouraged girl! You've come a long, long way from where you were and you've accomplished things that you always wanted to. So, you know you are far from a loser. In life we all hit a wall at some point - but how you chose to handle it when you get to that point is the most important....because your attitude will either inspire you to do better or will bring you down even more. Look at me - my punk ass been laid off for damn near three months and I'm just now starting to open my eyes. I been way too hard on myself feeling like a loser and like i messed and was foolish for thinking I could really have kept that job BUT I forget to look at my past and see how far I've come. I hit a rough patch but damn, I'm way better off than I was back in the day. Girl, I'm laid off from a job I never even thought I had a shot at. I got my foot in the door and can apply to other agencies in that field - I don't have to be down on myself 'cuz Michigan and its counties don't have money, you know? And you, girl please, you almost got you bachelors in psychology....whaaaaaaaaaat?! I remember when we was just celebrating your dag-on associate's degree. Be proud girl. You're a strong, hard-working, intelligent, successful woman...what happened to your big girl panties, dawg? Put them bitches back on Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetbrokensoul Posted January 8, 2009 Author Share Posted January 8, 2009 I know times are hard but don't get discouraged girl! You've come a long, long way from where you were and you've accomplished things that you always wanted to. So, you know you are far from a loser. In life we all hit a wall at some point - but how you chose to handle it when you get to that point is the most important....because your attitude will either inspire you to do better or will bring you down even more. Look at me - my punk ass been laid off for damn near three months and I'm just now starting to open my eyes. I been way too hard on myself feeling like a loser and like i messed and was foolish for thinking I could really have kept that job BUT I forget to look at my past and see how far I've come. I hit a rough patch but damn, I'm way better off than I was back in the day. Girl, I'm laid off from a job I never even thought I had a shot at. I got my foot in the door and can apply to other agencies in that field - I don't have to be down on myself 'cuz Michigan and its counties don't have money, you know? And you, girl please, you almost got you bachelors in psychology....whaaaaaaaaaat?! I remember when we was just celebrating your dag-on associate's degree. Be proud girl. You're a strong, hard-working, intelligent, successful woman...what happened to your big girl panties, dawg? Put them bitches back on Thanks girl, I know, i need to find the "big girl" panties! I guess I'm also depressed that I havent been seeing anyone for awhile too, but dont know where to find them, since I dont party anymore or really go out! But I cant get my foot in the door anywhere, thats what is soooo hard!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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