geebz Posted September 20, 2003 Share Posted September 20, 2003 In may, I was in a car accident, an I had a stage 3 concussion and post concussion syndrome. If you don't know what post concussion syndrome is, it sucks... I had increased anxieties, very emotional.. I was insecure about so many things including my relationship.. It changed my personality, moods, everything. I fell into depression (still there, but climbing out) My relationship ended in july, because I was nutty. I couldn't deal with anything, so i lost everything, my job, school and my girlfriend. I get mad about the accident, i wish it never happened.. i'm just wondering if anyone has ever encountered something similiar to this? If so what did you do to relieve the anxiety. I'm going through therapy and on medication, but I still get the anxiety every now and then. The cause is my ex girlfriend, i keep looking in the past and it sucks. This girl was the love of my life, i was going to propose to her very soon, we were going to move in together this past august (that didn't happen). Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 20, 2003 Share Posted September 20, 2003 Partners are supposed to be there for us through thick and thin, for better or for worse. If your girlfriend understood clearly why you were the way you were and was not willing to give you the understanding you required, why do you think she would have made a good partner for you in life? I think the accident, however tragic and painful to you, may have been a Godsend in that it saved you from perhaps a long term relationship with a lady who was there only for the good times and who proved to you she could no withstand the tough times. There is no good reason why you would want this lady back. It wasn't your fault you had this accident and it wasn't your fault you went through the nuttiness and anxiety you did. These are the times we need the people who love us to be there to support us. That's what love is all about. You didn't have a relationship, you had a relationshxt. Forget her and when you see her next time stick your tongue out at her, make a face and tell her it's from Tony. Link to post Share on other sites
Author geebz Posted September 20, 2003 Author Share Posted September 20, 2003 thanks, that makes sense.. there is something i did leave out though. she's going through her own stuff. she is going through depression as well. she really can't be there for me if she can't be there for herself... i'm not totally trying to defend her, i'm not here to do that. but i don't know if that makes any difference.. what do you think? I thought the way you presented it to me before. but when i realized, she can't be there for herself because she is troubled as well, how can she be there for me? Link to post Share on other sites
independent Posted September 20, 2003 Share Posted September 20, 2003 We are in some ways on the same boat. I am suffering from hyperthyroidism and this illness made me so negative, irritable, angry, emotionally down. This illness also gave me a difficult time at work in the same reason that my boss is also hyper so he is easily angered too..i quitted on that job hoping for another one... then my relationship is not really happy from the very start..it is 65% bad, 35% good...my bf's attitude, moreso, his mom triggered my hyperthyroid to go over it's pace even more...now i had to change to a much higher dose in my medicines (and i doubt if changing bf would help too)..i am so lonely..felt so alone.. i dont have a job, i dont have a good relationship, i can't do my hobbies coz i feel depress...i can't leave my bf though i asked for a break up (see i made decisions i'd be sorry in the end)... now, i don't know what to do...i have two questions here: When does pain heals? When is it time to go? Link to post Share on other sites
Author geebz Posted September 20, 2003 Author Share Posted September 20, 2003 i have no idea when it ends. Lately I've been so frustrated. Frustrated because this happened to me, it seems so unfair. I hate it. I don't know when the pain will stop, it hurts so bad. this is not fun at all... i understand what you are feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
AnnaJ Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 I was on the recieving end of 'post concussion syndrome'. My ex broke up with me, he completly changed, I wanted to stick with him, help him through, but he wanted to be alone and moved back to his apartment. I found it hard to cope with, I want him to be happy with himself again. He's changed to me, just doesn't seem to care about anything much anymore, himself, his family, life and me. He's depressed all the time, and can hardly cope. He just kept pushing me away, it just hurt so much. He got angry all the time, and it hurt me so much because I was used to how he used to be. I don't want to sound selfish, but I really miss him still and wish everything was sorted. I decided to do NC. I was always there if he wanted to talk because he can't as much to his friends (he's not a great one as discussing problems) but I thought if he wanted me around he would contact me. He still talks to me on yahoo. I'm not sure what's going on anymore, whether he wants me just to talk to, or wants me around incase he feels better and doesn't want to loose that contact. I asked once if he honestly thought we had a chance, he said maybe when he's better, but is unsure because he can't seem to think straight. He said he can't cope with a relationship right now, he likes to be alone, gets angry and is empty. His memory is appauling. I'm not sure what to do, it really hurts, but I don't want to appear selfish and still love talking to him. Should I just give up completly? I knowthis is an old thread, but I found it in a search. Link to post Share on other sites
Pixter1 Posted January 10, 2006 Share Posted January 10, 2006 I know how your boyfriend feels. I also have Post Concussion syndrome. It's been 5 months now and I am still not the person that I once was. I have a very supportive GF but we have our moments. It is very difficult to be there for someone when you are trying to get to know who you are all over again. It stinks. And my memory causes problems as well. Our ability to make rational decisions is diminished, and I think that your BF was feeling "out of control" and "dependant" on you. This was my case and it really does a job on our ego. Although your BF may not realize it, having you for support may help him during the mend, as long as you do your homework and read up on this Syndrome/Injury. We hate being wrong all of the time. There is a way of telling us that we are mistaken or that we have forgotten something without making us feel inadiquate. I have also started attending support group meetings for people who suffer this syndrome as well. Your BF may want to research this as it does help. He may have to call a head injury rehab center in order to get this information. Link to post Share on other sites
AnnaJ Posted January 16, 2006 Share Posted January 16, 2006 It's been about 6 months now since the break up. I just find it hard to cope with. He still talks to me on Yahoo, but it's hard to know where I stand with him sometimes. I know sometimes I could of been very selfish and it was very hard to understand what was happening at the time. I've done a lot of research on the condition. It's very hard to understand, as it's not as easy to see as a broken arm or leg, and far more complicated. How has it effected your emotions? This is one of the harder things to cope with a breakup, although every break up is hard, but this one is harder to understand. Link to post Share on other sites
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