jrobbies Posted September 21, 2003 Share Posted September 21, 2003 I've seen this guy out a few times and he really caught my eye. Since I've been back to school, I see him everywhere. A few events at the school I've seen him, we've have major eye contact, but have never spoken. One of my best friends knows some of his friends, and has offered to find out more about him. I'm super nervous when it comes to approaching guys (rejection scares me!), but I'm also 21 years old. Do you think I should just do the mature thing and find out on my own (which could take awhile at the rate I'm going!)or let my friend find out through his friends if the feelings are mutual? Link to post Share on other sites
powerstorm Posted September 22, 2003 Share Posted September 22, 2003 You say you have had major eye contact, I would take that as a good sign, but you are afraid of rejection as Im sure he is. (male EGO) So what do you do, just make eye contact and nothing else. Is this really what you want or do you want to meet him. You have friends that know him, so use them to your advantage, find out what he thinks, and if he likes you get your friends to invite him over for a party or get together and get them to introduce you. This way neither of you get rejected, its a win win "good luck" Link to post Share on other sites
iceprincess Posted September 24, 2003 Share Posted September 24, 2003 I think it would be a good start if you became friends with him, and then work from there. Guys like to have best girl friends, same as some of us girls that have best guy friends we can talk to. I know a lot of couples that had been friends and then got together because they both understood and knew so much about each other. If that's not the step you'd like to take...ask your friend to suggest a double date, that way everyone would be able to relax and have fun without having to worry about any uncomfortable silence. I do understand that it's hard if you're really shy and this may be a first for you. I'm shy too! But I realized that guys feel a lot of pressure from having to be the one to initiate all the time, so WE girls have to do it sometimes too. Trust me, I BET that if you went up and said "hi" to him, he'd automatically talk back. Good luck! iceprincess Link to post Share on other sites
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