homestay guy in our house commit suicide-crazy

[joel]

he was introduced to us by my uncle's friend of a friend. and my moms loves extra income and we had a extra room in our house. so we agreed and it was close to his school too

the guy's from HK and he came in nov.i think hes only been in canada since sept. well yesterday i saw a ghost cop car close to our house. i tried to get my key to open the door , but the door was open and i yelled as i got inside hey mom the door is open ya now. i just got home from work. well my mom told me cops are downstaris in our house. i asked my mom what happened ,but she wouldn;t give me a straight answer. just ah ya cops are downstairs with homestay guy.well my that was all i got. uh why didn;t she just give me a straight answer

i thought the guy probably was OD on drinking or maybe was in trouble with selling drugs or punched someone....etc

 

 

so when i finished eating i went downstairs and asked the coroner what happened . well the cop or coroner told me how i knew the guy, and i told him he was a homestay guy and how i barely even now him. the coroner told me the guy committed suicide in our house(in his bedroom) by hanging himself. no wonder the day before he didn;t even open the door or even answer when my mom bought him food.if we knew i would have stopped him or did something. but i mean you never suspect a guy would even commit suicide. i mean i thought he didn;t open his door b/c he was out at a friends house, listening to music with his earphones on, or just sleeping. i believe the door was locked or he blocked the door.

i'm not even sure why he did it.

 

he was a young 18 i believe , very quiet guy, never spoke to any of us. either said yes or no. even when you said hello to him he never said anything back. smoked like every hour even during the middle of the night. always looked down when walking and never made eye contact. looked exactly like the undertaker from wwf if any of you guys now. (the way he walks and eyes)

he even punched the wall in our house for some odd reason. we never confronted him about that, but we saw punch and damaged marks. he always just stayed in his room and never seemed to leave his room except for school. even when you wanted to talk to him, he wouldn;t talk to you.

 

the room he lived in is like close to mine , but there a door seperating it. i don;t even go into the washroom that is close to his room , i go upstairs now. its just spooky, creepy and scary.

 

i'm just glad the guy didn;t burn our house down, or kill any of us. who nows. i talked to the coroner who came, and told em about what i knew about the guy. and the coroner said he probably has a mental illness. who would have knew this would have happened. i mean its crazy. aren't most overseas students happy to be studying aboard. i mean you get to learn a new culture, new food, its kind of like travelling.

 

oh ya is this a cultural thing too. my parents told me not to tell anyone about this, not even my closest friends about it. even the neighbour asked my folks about what happened , and my dad just told him that nothing happened.

i mean whats the big deal , just tell em what really happened. i mean why hide this and that. it happened and it happened. its not like its our fault. even the cop told me it wasn;t our fault and we couldn;t do anything about it.

is it true if someone now a house had someone die in it the price would go down in value or something . i doubt that though

 

yes crazyyy and scary too

[Geishawhelk]

Yes, thanks for sharing that with us.

 

Disgracefully sad .....

 

But...Your point...?

 

What has this got to do with relationships...."In search of....."?

[sweetbrokensoul]

is it true if someone now a house had someone die in it the price would go down in value or something . i doubt that though

 

This is the question in this thread, but obviously not in the right forum...

 

I dont know if this is true, I heard that the price may go down in value, but alot of deaths occur in the home, so Im not sure why...if ppl find out when looking to buy their house then they may be reluctant to buy....

 

Anyway, I am sorry this happened to you, no, it is not your fault or anyone else's......You could not have helped this poor soul if you didnt know what was going on.

[steveraves]

Very doubtful it would have any effect on the price of the home. To my knowledge there is no reason that would have to be legally disclosed to a buyer. Now if a murder had occurred that would be a different matter.

[Ronni_W]

Joel,

I'm sorry that happened to you and your family. My sympathies to everyone who knew your house guest...and especially to his family.

 

Some events can be impersonal but also traumatic at the same time, right? It's normal if you're feeling something like that...sort of like you do care but you don't care. You "shouldn't" be freaked out but kinda you are, anyway.

 

Your parents want to act as if nothing happened...but something DID happen, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Somebody died. Somebody committed suicide in your house. You got that right it is crazy and scary! (((hugs)))

 

So, it is okay for you to have all sorts of thoughts, feelings and questions. I'd suggest to let your parents know what you need in terms of talking about what happened, and finding satisfactory answers to whatever questions you may have. Or talk with a school counselor or teacher, if your parents continue to live in denial about it.

 

Even if your parents don't want 'outside' people to know about it (which the neighbourhood is gonna find out anyway...they ALWAYS do, somehow), you still deserve to get all the proper guidance and support that you need or want. The property value is SO not your problem, and ought not over-ride your (and your parents) emotional well-being, anyway.

 

Sending Comfort and Strength.