need help

[mike]

I have been married for 20 years. During this time my wife and I have grown apart she will not talk to me about our problems. She believes that if she does not face the problem that I will fix it or it will go away. In the past two years I have found another person who I can talk to feel good about being around and love to be with. This women was my best friends wife until he past away two years ago. We talk all the time. She is very kind and understanding and now I have found myself falling in love with her. Nothing has ever happened between us so I no this feeling is not based on sex. The problem that I have is she thinks of me as a brother so she says. She does know how I feel and she lets every buddy tell her how to feel. Now that I know that my marriage is over how can I convince her to give it a try.