AlektraClementine Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 I have a question that is somewhat of an etiquette thing. I walk my children to and from school along with a handful of other parents and kids who live in the neighborhood. We all chit chat from time to time and there's one dad who's there everyday. He struck up conversation with me about my house one day a few months back (i have a weird house) and we've been making idle conversation since then. Lately he's been making his way over to me and striking up conversation everyday when I show up in the crowd of other "walker" parents in the afternoon. Well I think I've been catching that "look" from him. You all know the one. Could be wrong and will totally laugh at myself if I am... but today, when he made his way over to me he said.."so i thought about you the other day. my mom came back from *some foreign country* with chocolate. And I remembered how we were talking about how dangerous working from home can be on dieting"...I just smiled and made jokes about food and such. Luckily my daughter saved me and I politely excused myself and he said something like "i'll bring you some chocolate"..as I was leaving. Now. Maybe it's my imagination and I'm letting my ego think for me but I get the distinct impressing that he's gonna "go for it" soon. Seeing as I have a boyfriend and I don't want him to feel any awkwardness post "going for it"...should I start tossing some hints out there that I'm taken? Men - would you appreciate being given a head's up before putting yourself out there? Link to post Share on other sites
mr.dream merchant Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Most definitely would appreciate a heads up from a female that she's taken. Its a kick in the nuts to pursue a female for quite some time only to find out she's taken. Then you start to feel like she led you on or that you came on way too strong, all kinds of other ****. Just let him know where you stand on your casual conversation with him. Let him know you've got a boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AlektraClementine Posted January 14, 2009 Author Share Posted January 14, 2009 OK. But the tricky thing is making it subtle so it's not so obvious that I'm rejecting him before he's even asked. What do you suggest? Link to post Share on other sites
Charles1978 Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Yeah definitely let him know. There really isn't a gentle way, but since you two chat so much, mention your b/f in a conversation. Should be pretty easy, even if you have to fabricate some story. But yes... absolutely let the guy know. Link to post Share on other sites
zilverenvlinder Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Lie if you have to. It's really easy. Next time you're talking, saaay, about chocolate... smile, and say in a friendly tone, "My boyfriend went to ____ last year and he bought me some, they were sooo delicious." Easy. I do it often. Link to post Share on other sites
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