Jonarsh Posted September 22, 2003 Share Posted September 22, 2003 Hi ppl, its been a long while since I've been back here... Well, got an issue that I would like to hear comments from you all. Here it goes.... I just broke up with my ex for about a month plus, coz she was seeing this guy A, he was from her work place. Initially, she told me that they were jus friends, and told me that she would never even consider him. Actually I knew somethin was wrong coz it has been a couple of times that she actually lied to me but she was seeing him. She said she dint wana tell me because she was afraid I would not be happy. Anyway, I started to do stupid things like pestering her this n that, pressuring her not to leave me, coz I was so afraid of losing her. (I gave in a lot in this relaionship) Few days back, I saw her at a mart with that guy A, holding hands, and she told me she had slept with him. Of coz I was devasted. After that day, she sorta treat me differently, I guess she was sorry and remourseful, and said that she din liked that guy A at all, it was all for companionship. Now the question is: She wans to be back, yes, she is sorry, after sleeping with that ass, I too wan her back, but part of me tells me not to, coz I keep telling myself she just had enuff fun and now wans to come back to me. I guess some of you all had similiar incidents, care to hear from some of you ppl's comments, thanks! Jo. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 22, 2003 Share Posted September 22, 2003 This gal is not ready for a relationship with anybody. She sounds very unstable and seems to have no qualms at all about lying to you and hurting you. You need to be strong and get her out of your life so you can find somebody who has some measure of principles and a better sense of loyalty. If she was really into you, she wouldn't have been with the other guy "for companionship" and she wouldn't have slept with him. You said you gave a lot in the relationship....probably too much. So she's a user as well. Is that something you really want??? What an ungrateful bitch to have a nice guy like you yet have no problems with hurting you and screwing you over. This lady is certainly not the kind of partner men dream of...she's more like a nightmare. Take some power into your hands and let her know you simply can't have her back in your life because you know there's somebody better out there for you. Frankly, I don't think you could do a whole lot worse than this sleeze. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted September 22, 2003 Share Posted September 22, 2003 if you sit and think about it, you probably don't want to dating with her if it means the possibility of you guys sleeping together, because that one time she decided to sleep with that other guy could have consequences you don't know about. In other words, not only do you have to guard yourself against heartache from a cheating girlfriend, but against the possibility she was exposed to some kind of disease (VD, HIV, etc.) while she was looking for "companionship" with someone other than you. Tony's got a lot of good points in his post: Now ask yourself if you really and truly want to be with someone who obviously has little respect for you that she went looking for love in different places, and now thinks she can worm her way back into a relationship with you. Love is something that grows when nurtured, but there needs to be a certain amount of ground-level respect when you're with someone, and it don't sound like she's got that for you or your relationship! Link to post Share on other sites
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