gldngirl Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Just a question. I've recently been broken up with and I'm looking for suggestions. I'm not sleeping well at night. I'm tired and I go to bed and sleep lightly for a few hours then I'm wide awake and can't fall back asleep. Like tonight, went to bed at 11, woke up at 2 and I'm here typing away bright eyed and bushy tailed. I've tried lying in bed and relaxing till I fall asleep, but my brain won't shut off. Meditation doesn't help, soft music doesn't help, warm milk doesn't help. I also have no appetite. I'm hungry but when food is placed in front of me, I suddenly have no appetite. When I do eat, nothing has taste. Forcing myself to eat makes me feel sick. I'm a student and have classes all day and even though I've been going to the gym and am taking my dog on major long walks, expending the energy has no effect on either my sleeping patterns or my appetite. I'm not sure what to do about it. Anyone else go through this? Anyone have any suggestions? I don't want to get myself run down and wind up becoming ill as a result. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Do you have alot of stress in your life right now? Because sometimes stress can cause the things that you have described. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 i think you should consult with your physician Link to post Share on other sites
ahhhchooo Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Yeah, a lot of people go through this - and bad/upsetting dreams - post break up, myself included. Lack of appetite was a big one. Even getting drunk wouldn't help me sleep. It passes. There isn't much you can do to sleep other than trying not to think about it, or maybe sleeping tablets, but they've never really helped me. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Yeah, a lot of people go through this - and bad/upsetting dreams - post break up, myself included. i can understand that. since i usually do the "breaking up" i actually sleep better and have less stress afterwards... i suppose it matters which end of the stick you are on Link to post Share on other sites
Dumbledore Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Try to imagine that you have a big assignment due - one that you absolutely hate, and don't want to do. It's due the next morning, so you can't put it off any longer. You wish it would just go away, and you could get some sleep. If that doesn't work, then just grab a nap whenever you can. And try to keep yourself occupied, so you're not thinking about the thing that's dragging you down. Eventually you'll get completely exhausted, and your body will say enough's enough, and you'll sleep. Don't allow yourself to think about you-know-what. Stop yourself. Think about something else, and try to stay occupied. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Don't allow yourself to think about you-know-what. Stop yourself. Think about something else, and try to stay occupied. no, i still think a medical consult is indicated here Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 i think you should consult with your physician Exactly. It could be any number of things, better safe than sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Dumbledore Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 no, i still think a medical consult is indicated here Absolutely. Excellent idea. I neglected to say that in my convoluted "assignment" scenario, you convince yourself that you are exhausted, and you will take a short nap before you get to work. Fortunately, you never get around to doing it, because the bed feels so good that you're out for the count. Link to post Share on other sites
Dumbledore Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I think Citizen Erased is suggesting that you swivel on an upright thumb. Can't argue with that! Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I think Citizen Erased is suggesting that you swivel on an upright thumb. Can't argue with that! :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I think Citizen Erased is suggesting that you swivel on an upright thumb. Can't argue with that! :rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 :rolleyes: :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Author gldngirl Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 Haha, it took me a bit to understand the thumb thing. Nice one! Stress is my life, I'm a vet student, but school stress normally doesn't affect me this way. I've thought about sleep aids, but they've never worked for me before. And I loathe the doctor, but will go if it continues another week. I was hoping for things that other people have found to work for them. Link to post Share on other sites
Blondi26 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I think that the only things that really help are time and keeping busy. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkToes Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I've had trouble sleeping for a long time, I tend to wake up every couple of hours, but I know that insomnia is also a fairly typical response to a breakup. I've tried all the supplements & sleepy teas and even a couple of prescriptions, mostly without success. But I found something recently that has really helped -- it's an OTC tablet called "Midnite" and it's designed to be taken if you wake up in the middle of the night (although I also take it before bed sometimes), so it won't make you groggy in the morning. Any large drugstore should carry it. Also if you can't quiet your mind (a friend of mine calls that "monkey brain"), you might try keeping a TV on, with some mindless show or sitcom. Sometimes that can distract the most active part of your brain, so the thoughts stop running in circles. Also there are tapes specifically designed to help you sleep. Maybe try smoothies if you're having a hard time eating, get the kind with added protein, to keep your strength up. Also lots of water. I hope this helps! Sweet dreams. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I have had wicked insomnia for a couple years. It first came after a break up and I've never been able to shake it. I am lucky to get 4 hours without waking up. last night I went to bed at 11ish and woke up at 2 am... then I tossed and turned and couldn't shut down. I just laid in bed and watched tv until 7am, then got up and went to bed. Felt like crap all day... but here I sit, unable to sleep. I have had some success with a prescription. It has never gotten me more than 6 hours though. And 6 hours is pushing it. You have to discuss this with your doc. Even if you hate going- it's important. They have prescriptions that are not addictive. I walk around like a zombie all day, then come home and just can't sleep. I've laid down a couple times already tonight and my heart and head are racing so much I just got up. I hope you'll call the doc...! Link to post Share on other sites
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