I'm afraid I can't allow this one to get away...

[Bad Karma]

But the problem is that she wants to "be single for a while and no where near a relationship or even moving towards a relationship."

 

Those were her exact words this past Monday night while we were talking a little stroll but there's more to it than that, so forgive me if this post is winded...

 

She's 21 and I'm 26, and we live in a coastal community that could best be described as a big small town. We've got a good nightlife scene here and she lives about a block away from the bars, which is why I'm a little stunned that I'd never seen or met her before. At any rate, I we met in mid-November and things moved kinda fast from the outset but it felt good and she reciprocated a lot at first. Little things that don't seem like much on the surface but mean leaps and bounds when trying to build something. She told me at the outset about not wanting to be in a relationship but she just responded so well to my advances and I was smart not to be too available.

 

We're both very much alike in that although we frequent the bars, we are not "easy" people; neither of us sleep around and have one-night stands and that is probably one of the things I'm most proud about myself, and one of the things that I find so endearing about this girl. We spent several nights together at her house and neither of us let the other make a mistake in that regard. What can I say? She's a phenomenal snuggler and I f--king love it...

 

She's the type of girl that's always been in a relationship, ever since high school. Her first serious boyfriend ended up getting cancer and he passed away during her freshman year in college, and I know it jaded her. Since then, she's been in two or three relationships, the last one for 1.5 years. It's my understanding that the other guys were nice at times but they truly didn't deserve her and it's left her a little burned out on all of it. So naturally, this is when I met her and I know she didn't plan on meeting someone like me when she did. I know for a fact that it's over and done between her and her ex-boyfriend and he is aware that her and I have been hanging out together, so I know she's not going back to that mess.

 

So basically, this past Monday night, she told me that she just isn't ready for another relationship even though she cannot deny that she feels something for me. She knows how I feel about her so I hugged her and said, "Okay. Maybe later." To which she replied, "Yeah, maybe later." And that's where we left it. The only thing that just isn't right is the timing. I haven't talked to her since Monday and I'm not planning to until next Friday; her and her roommates invited me to a little party at their house, so I suppose I'll show up for a little bit and go to the bar afterwards. It's what everybody does here, around the beach...

 

She's constantly on my mind and I miss her more than ever and I don't think I can let her slip away. But at the same time, I don't want to press it and crowd her. So what can I do?