Is it possible tobe addicted to prostitution

[vulcan]

Ok im my quest to find answers I need to ask this.

 

Can it be possible to like being a prostitute??

 

the reason Iiask is my ex became one to help pay bills despite my attempts to help her so she wouldn't have to she still went on to do this.

 

It would appear though I think she might actualy enjoy it I am not sure? the last information I found out was she was not doing it but then saw an ad for her so ithink she may have went back for some extra money I don;t know I don't talk to her she wont talk to me.

 

She was raped at 14 so I'm sure that may have a cause in why she is doing it.

 

To me, I could never lower myself to do such a thing and I find it soo hard to imagine someone could do that. I know many do. I see ads for call girsl allthe time posted all over and some have to because of circumstances but with my ex I offered to help herso she wouldn't have to.

 

So Iam thinking hmmm if I really didn't want to sell my body for money and someone is offering me help even if I dodn't like the person I would accept that help till I got back on my feet than to go sell my body ya know?

 

So you think she actualy enjoys this? I mean is she fully cognet of what she is doing?/ and to herself emotionaly? Does she not care? Is it exciting to her?

 

I don't understand I mean I think a noram human would look at that and say ya know what this is not right. Is she not capable of that logic??

[SoulSearch_CO]

I wouldn't judge her actions until you've had to live her life in her shoes and experience what she's had to experience. I, very fortunately, have not had to endure sexual abuse. It is, very sadly, quite a widespread problem.

 

I've read and heard from women firsthand that a high number of sex-industry women were sexually abused. In trying to come to terms with what happened in their past, they may choose to go into that career to be in control. They were put in a position of complete weakness by being raped/molested. Now THEY get to choose who gets to see their body, experience their body. For some it can absolutely be an attempt to reclaim control over that part of themselves.

 

Now, knowing that she has an opportunity to be strong and take care of herself or surrender and let someone else rescue her...why do you think she'd choose what could be considered the "weak" path? By doing what she's doing, SHE gets to be in control. If she had given in to what you had offered, she would then have to have that hanging over her head - owing you money.

 

There's also the possibility that as a result of her experience at 14 that she feels "broken." By doing her chosen profession, she gets to feel wanted.

 

Although I do agree - in the long term it ends up doing more damage if there are underlying issues that pushes a woman into this kind of profession. It's really unfortunate, but there's nothing you can do but just accept her for who she is and be there for her if she comes to you for support.

[vulcan]

Well I offered tohelp her and made it very clear that I wanted nothing in return. If I helped her with money or whatever I told her don't worry about anything I just want to help you with whatever.

 

I think you are right about wanting attention. She seemd to crave that and in our realtionship sex was a HUGE thing. as though if we didn't have sex one night she would think that maybe I didn't want her.

 

Strange to think lie that but perhaps she did even though I showed her love in soo many other ways as well but never seemed good enough.

 

I would deff support her but to be honest, I got so frustrated and perhaps I said somenot so nice things becuase she refussed to talk to me. I feel abit guilty for those things but she was very very mean to me much worse than the few tings I said.

 

I guess all I can do is nothing and if she comes back around she does.

 

I don't know how to handle her or look at her if she did as I had my emotions involved with all this. It hurts me very much

[Lauriebell82]

Well I offered tohelp her and made it very clear that I wanted nothing in return. If I helped her with money or whatever I told her don't worry about anything I just want to help you with whatever.

 

I think you are right about wanting attention. She seemd to crave that and in our realtionship sex was a HUGE thing. as though if we didn't have sex one night she would think that maybe I didn't want her.

 

Strange to think lie that but perhaps she did even though I showed her love in soo many other ways as well but never seemed good enough.

 

I would deff support her but to be honest, I got so frustrated and perhaps I said somenot so nice things becuase she refussed to talk to me. I feel abit guilty for those things but she was very very mean to me much worse than the few tings I said.

 

I guess all I can do is nothing and if she comes back around she does.

 

I don't know how to handle her or look at her if she did as I had my emotions involved with all this. It hurts me very much

 

Hell yeah, you can get addicted to prostitution!!!!

 

Please don't think this is your fault or that you contributed to it. You didn't!!! I don't think it's purely the sex, it's the money. Does she do drugs? I am an addictions counselor and most prostitution I see is for drug money, or the johns "hook them up" with drugs in exchange for sex.

 

She may be addicted to the idea of getting "rewarded" for her sexual performance. Is she a call girl or does she hook on the street? You can't change her addiction. You can't CURE her. She has to do that herself. IMO I think you need to support her but encourage treatment or let her get better. Being this emotionally invested will cause you some pain. Having sex with someone with a sex addiction is NOT PRODUCTIVE. Let her go get help.

[Geishawhelk]

The experiences this girl had undoubtedly have an effect on the way she thinks now.

 

However, I used to have a very good friend who did this as a profession. She loved it. genuinely.

 

She enjoyed it and saw nothing wrong with it. She wasn't on drugs, she didn't drink, she took precautions and never put herself at risk. she did it when she felt like it, and stopped when she didn't.

She had a full-time job, and a young daughter.

Talk about happy in your work!

Now, I'm not saying this is usual, nor am I saying it's the norm.

 

But the Thread question was "Is it possible to be addicted to prostitution?"

 

Whilst I don't think my friend was addicted, she did love doing it.

And i think there may be other prostitutes who feel the same way.

[vulcan]

lauriebell if you don't mind I would love to ask you some questions. If you don't mind can I contact you via e-mail??? I don't see how to send you a private message here.

[slippery sneaker]

Ok im my quest to find answers I need to ask this.

 

Can it be possible to like being a prostitute??

 

the reason Iiask is my ex became one to help pay bills despite my attempts to help her so she wouldn't have to she still went on to do this.

 

It would appear though I think she might actualy enjoy it I am not sure? the last information I found out was she was not doing it but then saw an ad for her so ithink she may have went back for some extra money I don;t know I don't talk to her she wont talk to me.

 

She was raped at 14 so I'm sure that may have a cause in why she is doing it.

 

To me, I could never lower myself to do such a thing and I find it soo hard to imagine someone could do that. I know many do. I see ads for call girsl allthe time posted all over and some have to because of circumstances but with my ex I offered to help herso she wouldn't have to.

 

So Iam thinking hmmm if I really didn't want to sell my body for money and someone is offering me help even if I dodn't like the person I would accept that help till I got back on my feet than to go sell my body ya know?

 

So you think she actualy enjoys this? I mean is she fully cognet of what she is doing?/ and to herself emotionaly? Does she not care? Is it exciting to her?

 

I don't understand I mean I think a noram human would look at that and say ya know what this is not right. Is she not capable of that logic??

 

 

Hi Vol well this is just my opinion,It may not be the act of prostitution,but addicted to the money. I know inside it has got to be disscusting for anywoman to sell her precious body,but MONEY s the key. Especially in a drug user. Just My opinion. Thanks

SS

[Nikki Sahagin]

It is possible to be addicted to anything. As has already been covered, she may genuinely enjoy it, she may be trying to gain sexual control, she may feel rewarded, equally she may be punishing herself. There are endless reasons really....

 

Again I can't understand why a woman would WANT to do this. But each mind and heart experiences different things. And contrary to 'norm' belief, I think women can switch off during sex. How else can a woman who is raped or abused or stuck with a husband she doesn't enjoy sex with keep going?

[Lauriebell82]

lauriebell if you don't mind I would love to ask you some questions. If you don't mind can I contact you via e-mail??? I don't see how to send you a private message here.

 

You can't receive private messages here because you are new I think.