livemylifeandhavefun Posted September 23, 2003 Share Posted September 23, 2003 I have a friend (female) who I was talking to on the phone when I got company another friend (male). My friend was talking through me to him and visa versa. We were laughing and she made the comment that I was having way to much fun that she should go. I said no, that is ok and we continued our conversation. We talked for a few more minutes then. She made a comment she had to feed her kids so I told her I would call her later after my company left and she said ok. Then my company went outside so I could finish my call. I tried to have more conversation with her. She had asked about a trip we were just tossing around and I told her we probably wouldn't get to go because my husband does not know when his neck surgery is going to be. She said "Well, I have to know so I can put in for it with my husband." I said well, we might get to go on the bus in December as I don't know what is going on in Oct/Nov until after Sept 30th when he goes to the doctor. She said Well the things work here is I have to ask in advance if I can go someplace. Then she said well I have to go. I said well I will call you back in a few. She practically bit my head off saying "No, don't call me back". I said OK I will call you later. She said NO, don't call me I have to fix dinner and feed my kids. I asked her what was wrong and she said nothing, I have to go. Just let me go! I tried calling her back after my company left and she answered but it was not good! "What do you want? I have to go to class. Do you need something?" I said No, I was just calling to chat. She said Well, I have to go. I said OK call me when you get home. She said no, I have homework to do. That was all there was..... Can you tell me what I did?? I am completely confused here...why is she so angry and what did I do? Link to post Share on other sites
MarieW Posted September 23, 2003 Share Posted September 23, 2003 Read your own post. i think it's quite obvious. Your female friend knew you had a male friend there and said you were "having way too much fun" You mentioned your husband. I would presume your female friend thinks there is something going on with the male company who called round to see you. It's hard to see anything else in your post because it seems so obvious. I'm sure your relationship with the male friend is platonic but maube your female friend doesn't see it that way. I dunno, it's hard to say without knowing more about it. Perhaps she is upset with you over something else that you didn't mention in your post. Link to post Share on other sites
aquaria127 Posted September 23, 2003 Share Posted September 23, 2003 I think It didn't sound like you were being too considerate while she was in the middle of fixing dinner for her kids and getting ready for her class. If someone is busy, they probably don't have time to be joking and chatting on the telephone. You had company anyway. you probably should have let her call you back when she had some free time. Regarding the vacation, maybe they have been planning it while you have been planning for your husband's surgery. You should talk it over with your husband and tell your friends soon, because they probably need a bit of notice to ask for time off to go on a trip. Link to post Share on other sites
stefany Posted September 23, 2003 Share Posted September 23, 2003 Maybe she was just feeling overwhelmed that she had to feed her kids, help them get ready for bed, play with them, maybe help do their homewrok, get dinner ready, go to class, do well in class, come home late and still have homework to do, wake up sleepy to help her kids....so on and so on.... You know? And all the time you were having friends over and all laughing and joking and having a good time while she felt maybe a little envious she couldn't enjoy some free time as you two were. Give her sometime to get control of her feelings...I'm sure she'll call. And if not maybe she is embarassed for snapping at you and you should call only with the plans or something important to say and not to just chat. It's obvious to me she feels overwhelmed. Link to post Share on other sites
serenity Posted September 26, 2003 Share Posted September 26, 2003 Maybe she was just having a stessed out day? we all have them and small things can be irratating to us -- jus a thought!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author livemylifeandhavefun Posted March 2, 2004 Author Share Posted March 2, 2004 Update: Talked to my friend and this is what she told me she was slightly jealous of the fact that I have can have company over and a male at that. Also that I don't have to ask permission to do things or talk to friends. But the thing that was really going on is...her abusive husband was harassing her and causing her problems when we were in the middle of the phone call, that is why her mood changed. Thank you for all your input. It did make me see things in a different light and I was able to talk to her about what was going on. Have a great day! Link to post Share on other sites
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