Author urdone Posted April 3, 2009 Author Share Posted April 3, 2009 Now the truth is out, she admitted today that she is seeing someone...how did I know that he was a wealthly professional. I have been traded in for the bigger better deal. Damn. Link to post Share on other sites
lostsunsets Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Divorce the skank, now! Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 3, 2009 Author Share Posted April 3, 2009 I have never felt so low. Link to post Share on other sites
Sco Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Thanks for dissecting my questions and comments. It makes things a bit more comprehensible about your sith.. If everything is the way you say, then it is almost a lost cause with her, especially if you’ve made a mental note that “you no longer want her”. 10 years down the drain is hard to swallow, and may seem to you as a total waste. But “On every thorn, wisdom grows”. What may look like a ‘defeat’, is nothing more but the first step to something better. As far as you “being traded in for the bigger better deal”.. well, this too shall past.. It ain’t gonna last, and won’t produce any good fruit.. Remember what she said time and time again, that no one would ever put up with her wild temper and constant tantrums. . well we all know that, “a leopard never changes its spots”, and she got plenty from what it seems.. so sooner or later, it will all come tumbling to the ground. Hang in there brother, and chin up! Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Did she admit this to her kids? Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 3, 2009 Author Share Posted April 3, 2009 Thanks for dissecting my questions and comments. It makes things a bit more comprehensible about your sith.. If everything is the way you say, then it is almost a lost cause with her, especially if you’ve made a mental note that “you no longer want her”. 10 years down the drain is hard to swallow, and may seem to you as a total waste. But “On every thorn, wisdom grows”. What may look like a ‘defeat’, is nothing more but the first step to something better. As far as you “being traded in for the bigger better deal”.. well, this too shall past.. It ain’t gonna last, and won’t produce any good fruit.. Remember what she said time and time again, that no one would ever put up with her wild temper and constant tantrums. . well we all know that, “a leopard never changes its spots”, and she got plenty from what it seems.. so sooner or later, it will all come tumbling to the ground. Hang in there brother, and chin up! It was only a day after answering your question that the truth came out and I pretty much nailed it. Much to my horror....I'm not a evil person but I so truly hope she pays dearly for this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 3, 2009 Author Share Posted April 3, 2009 Did she admit this to her kids? I said to her am I going to tell our son or you....she flips out like "you can't do this to him".....I'M DOING IT TO HIM?????. She said shes only been seeing the guy 2 weeks.....this will turn into sex in another week if not already...and relationship soon after......then she will tell him....I can't really see what good it will do telling my son anything right now. My main priority now is to see a laywer, we had a verbal agreement of 50/50 custody....depending on what happens she may want to move away etc.....so I will get that all drawn up tomorrow....as far as I'm aware with the courts in this country if you have a standard practice...which we have had for 3 months then it must continue the same....I'm not going to waste anytime on that one!!!. I think she thinks she's hit paydirt with this guy so I better cover my bases real fast. Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 3, 2009 Author Share Posted April 3, 2009 Me- Nov 08- we miscarried our baby in I was very very upset by it, Xmas day 08- I find the TXT on her cell phone, she walks out on marriage vowing never to return, I'm distraught, Mar 09- I get made redundant from my job, Mar 09- she finally admits to getting it on with a guy at a party 2 weeks after we split, April 09- I find out/she confesses to be seeing a guy....a wealthy professional who has tones of cash, house and car. I'm a broken down miserable emotional wreck today with no job and no money and I've aged 10 years. She- Nov 08- miscarries baby, does not seem all that cut up about it, infact thats the real out for her. Xmas day- She sends slutty TXT message I find out, she walks out of marriage. Jan 09- Shes already getting it on with a guy at a party, and having the time of her life, Feb 09- more parties and having fun, March 09 - more parties and having fun, Meets the man of her dreams, loaded proffesional, house, car the lot. Shes absolutely loving life, looking more stunning then ever, happy as a pig in sh*t making 60 grand per year and met a guy that's probably making 100 grand per year. My life is sh*t and her's is perfect....Please someone!!!!, what the hell!!!!!. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 "The wages of sin is death". Do not be jealous of her lifestyle. Her lifestyle will satisfy her for now. You have rejected her- do not return. Pray for her to recovery to godly things. Her SOUL is at stake. Preaching to her will do very little good. Don't do this. Your recovery now must be about regaining you own individuality. Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 4, 2009 Author Share Posted April 4, 2009 "The wages of sin is death". Do not be jealous of her lifestyle. Her lifestyle will satisfy her for now. You have rejected her- do not return. Pray for her to recovery to godly things. Her SOUL is at stake. Preaching to her will do very little good. Don't do this. Your recovery now must be about regaining you own individuality. That she has spent the last 7 years in our church and can do all these things, more then her soul is at stake...firstly she will be punished twice and bad for her sins...But what is also at stake is everyones future. My major concern is how this will affect my son, that really really worries me...she jumped in the sack with this guy after only 1 week of knowing him. And I don't know how this will affect my boy mentally and emotionally since my son is very worried himself about what his mother is up to. Being that he is 9 he's at an age where this could really have a negative affect on him, not just now but in years to come. I'm really sweating this one out. Link to post Share on other sites
Sco Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 Totally agree with "Imagine"... although hard to do, you don't wanna get caught up comparing her life to yours.. it is too much for anyone to bear, you're gonna worry yourself to death, literally.. not good for your health, not good for your soul. You need to start taking care of yourself.. remember you have to be there for your son.. HE NEEDS YOU. As far as your son, since you mentionned that he's very worried, you may wanna talk to a child psychologist, a counselor or your pastor to get him some help. Nobody is telling him much.. He's hurting and is left to figure this all out on his own, to make sense of all this at age 9...that's 'double whammy' for him. Get him some help and take care of yourself. Hang in there! Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 5, 2009 Author Share Posted April 5, 2009 OK, this is nuts I have just found out from my son, that she actually bought this guy around last week to meet my son....she even told him we are friends but we might be more then friends.... She'd only known the guy 1 week and she's laying this on my son...what the fu*k is wrong with her???????????????, my son is really messed up about it and was hiding it from me all week and only just told me today. Now my son is saying, I don't want to live week about I want to stay at your place for good...he didn't like the guy at all. And whats this I find out....He's as dark as charcoal an immigrant from Zimbabwe.....what could he possible have in common with the ex???. My son says he seemed like a happy kind of guy....this is how I see it. She has got a guy that because of his ethnicity is different, and she is obviously suffering from her own insecurties so she feels he's different he will accept me....she is an emotional vampire and once again she has gone for a "nice guy"...simply meaning she has someone she can control and contain.....I don't know what his job is....but professional??.... Why am I willing to bet there is absolutely nothing this guy can offer her that I couldn't. All the demands she placed on me were all bullsh*t and she won't do the same to him until she knows how to work him... I don't know wether to laugh or cry, this is fu*ken horse sh*t man Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 5, 2009 Author Share Posted April 5, 2009 Oops....looks like I don't belong here.... And I certainly don't deserve to be here either. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 What is the law in your country regarding WAW's. Can your son choose to live with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 But I am seeing a lawyer tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Okay, what did the lawyer say? Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 10, 2009 Author Share Posted April 10, 2009 Go for it, shes unfit.....I still have txts telling me she will not deal with me and will only deal via my son (bad move)...I also have all her comments on Bebo about hardcore parties every weekend... And of course I will get a court appointed shrink and my son will say I bwant to live with my dad!. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 The Die is Set.. go for it and keep us posted. Pray for her heart. She is the one in trouble- with God. Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 11, 2009 Author Share Posted April 11, 2009 The Die is Set.. go for it and keep us posted. Pray for her heart. She is the one in trouble- with God. With the devil, and you become the devil. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 First rule of dealing with the Devil... ..... don't Link to post Share on other sites
Sco Posted April 12, 2009 Share Posted April 12, 2009 The devil already got her right where he wants her -- no problem there -- she'll soon have to answer to God... Link to post Share on other sites
Author urdone Posted April 12, 2009 Author Share Posted April 12, 2009 The devil already got her right where he wants her -- no problem there -- she'll soon have to answer to God... I rocked up to church today...and wouldn't you know it, who parks right beside me and jumps out her car...Yes the devil herself...it appears she has dumped my son for the whole Easter weekend so she can screw this guys brains out.....and turns up to church to "relieve some guilt"..... I just smiled and asked "are you lost", she said "your the one who's lost", I said "lady I know exactly where I'm going"...then just smiled and strolled off.....amazing really I thought I'd get wickedly angry...but no, I was pretty calm....she was stepping onto my turf. She was sitting a number of rows in front while I'll was sitting on the second level looking at the back of her head...it was a very strange almost surreal feeling.....This woman who I had spent 10 years with, lived with loved more then life itself etc, whose body I know every inch of was just some odd strange character....like watching someone in a dream.......I still can't get my head around the fact that "my wife" is someone else's girlfriend. She looked SO out of place...like the guilt was there...every word coming from the pulpit was damnation and condemnation in regards to how she's living...I could just see it hitting her like bullets....but that's still not going to stop her from doing what she's doing.....I did notice that she did not take communion....that was pretty telling.....after I went to see my Pastor to arrange a BBQ & mentioned she was there....that flash of anger hit him again as her scoured the crowd for her...I actually told him not to worry about it...he is still pretty pissed at a comment that she made directed at him....he'll take a piece out of her...we'll see her and Easter and Xmas only...like all good flakey Christains. In all I was happy, happy that for the first time I did not sink in an absolute well of despair simply by seeing her, I didn't get that knotted rope nausea in my gut like I could just vomit and wished the ground would open and swallow me up, I didn't feel so over powered and powerless......most of all I noticed how UNHAPPY SHE LOOKED!!! as odd as that sounds...but when you know someone for so many years you can easily read their faces. After that I went to a BBQ with an adults group from the church, everyone there I had met or known one way or another....word had got around about everything that has happened and I was awed by the fact that virtually every single person in their own time made a comment to me about what they thought and how they respected me for taking the higher road.......and doing what is right by my son and in the eyes of God....for once I didn't have to deal with the shame that "my wife split and is screwing someone else". Today was a real turning point. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted April 12, 2009 Share Posted April 12, 2009 It is very unusual that a wayward comes to church during adultery. God is working with her and there will be either remorse or rejection. Welcome her to church. A church is a hospital for sinners. And it is well that she did NOT take communion. Link to post Share on other sites
Sco Posted April 12, 2009 Share Posted April 12, 2009 In all I was happy, happy that for the first time I did not sink in an absolute well of despair simply by seeing her So good to read that.. that's a sign of you leaving the valley in route to the peak... You may slip here and there, but keep your head up and climb. Hang in there! Link to post Share on other sites
fella Posted April 12, 2009 Share Posted April 12, 2009 i really, really dislike this self-centered bitch. (sorry) keep on keeping on and doing the right thing by your kid and yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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