I've moved from the devastation period to the REALLY pissed off period

[flsgirl]

Well, it's been almost two months since the love of my life for three years just dropped me (for the full story, read I'm in the Devastation period thread.) I figured I'd give everyone a little update because I need to vent.

 

Since then, I've done everything in my power to try to move on from him. I've been in therapy and I signed up for an art class. I have okay days and REALLY BAD days. However, I've managed to keep enough dignity and self-respect to not call him. As the days pass, I have less of an expectation of him to call. Well, sort of...

 

My birthday was Sunday. I figured that maybe I'd get a little e-mail or phone call just to say "Happy Birthday," but I got nothing. When we last spoke, he told me that we were best friends and he really cared about me and he wanted to come and visit, blah...blah...blah. Deep down I knew that it wasn't true at the time but I hoped that it was. I guess he validated that he was more of a liar than I thought.

 

I guess I'm coming to the realization that I probably will never speak to him again. That hurts. I think that he is incredibly cruel by lying about us and how he ended our relationship. All I have to say is that I hope he realizes that really lost a great thing and I hope that he's miserable in his dead end job in our depressed hometown.

 

Okay, I had to get that all out...

[2SidestoStories]

(((((((((((<<<<HUG>>>>)))))))))))

 

Thought you could use that.

[Bob]

I'm pretty much in the same position as yourself. Only I see this person everyday .

 

I have learned to keep my self busy, keep doing things, the art class is a good idea. I have joined my local gym and started playing golf and sailing anytime I get a chance.

 

You either have to fix things with him or move on, it is that black and white. I have tried to fix things with my ex, but that was a failure so I am slowly moving on.

 

It isn't easy, but it gets better.

 

I hope that he's miserable in his dead end job in our depressed hometown.

 

That however isn't too nice. It would be nice to have ended it on good terms

 

I wish you luck.

 

J

[jezebelle]

you know what comes after the REALLY PISSED OFF period? The I'm ready to be single/try again period. Congrats and good luck! Hope I can get there soon myself!

[Fancy]

I haven't read your whole story from before (I'm new here, but I'm headed there now), but I wanted to first of all give you a big congratulations for not calling!! Way to go!!! That shows a lot of strength and will on your part and it's the smart thing to do. There's no need in contacting him. It's over and time for you to move on.

 

I can totally understand your pain and anger (been there many, many times) but please believe me when I tell you this will pass! The hell you're going through right now is only temporary. Keep doing the things you've been doing, keep yourself very busy and just give it time. And don't call! Your heart will heal. You can count on it!

[flsgirl]

Update:

 

Low and behold I get to work this morning to find an e-mail from "Mike." It was a late birthday card saying he didn't know if I wanted to hear from him or not but sent it anyway (a week late). He also said he hoped I had a great birthday because I deserved it..blah...blah...blah. He said he hoped I would keep in touch.

I replied and said thanks for the card and pretty much left it at that. It's been about a month since we last talked. It's hard because I really want to be in contact with him but it won't help me to move on. It's nice to know that he actually thought of me. I guess he' not as big of a bastard as I thought. I guess I'll see if he really does try to keep in touch. It just makes me wonder if that's because he's guilty of how he treated me and he's trying to make amends or he really wants to be friends. I'm going to try not to analyze it and just go with it. It'll make me crazy if I have to think about it.

[calithin83]

well ok he got u a late birthday card..but is it really worth it..all he is doing is getting your hopes back up that he isnt that bad!! In a way i hate that....they make u go down then up....but just hang in there and dont get ure hopes up....dont think about getting back..cos the more u think about it..the worst!!! just do ure own thing...and if a guy puts u through pain once he most likely will do it again....im almost in the same situation as u though my ex of almost 3 years broke up wtih me..and its hard cos we aint talking and sometimes i think that we will get back together..or that he might call..but its a waste of time because instead of goign FORWARD..im just in PAUSE!... its not good to reamian in PAUSE>..only cos of hope and stuff....its better to move FORWARD..cos they arent in PAUSE for us and if they really lvoed us as they CLAIM, then why arent they with us? whatever its all nonsense!!!

 

I just hope we find a worthy guy! there must be some out there!!!!!!!!!

 

 

Good luck! ure not alone [color=green][/color][font=arial][/font]

[iceprincess]

Hi, there, I'm so glad to have read your thread. I am one month behind you on a "silent" break-up that I was really sad about. Reading your thread made me smile, because I'm kind of transitioning over from the devastated part to the pissed off part too.

 

Hey, good luck! You will find someone new, you will love again.

 

iceprincess