vainla Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 my H and I were having problems. We were thinking about getting a divorce. New year's eve, I am getting ready for my guest to show up, when I my H. comes home and tell me he is in love wiht his office manager, and that they are moving in toguether. I started to laugh because, this woman is a saint, and totally not the type of having affairs. he went on as to tell me that the OWH had found out and all those things, when my guest showed up. Anyways, we went on with the party like if nothing happened because I did not believe a bit of what he was saying. As a motter of fact, the OW and the H were invited to the party, but never showed up. We had gone to the movies a couple days before all toguether. It could not be ture. Long story short, the OWH knew long ago, but was just gathering data to protect his assets. I was in shock because, I had this woman siting at my table, baby sitting my child, I trusted her in my house with my most intimate personal things. She is older than my H, and would never guess she had this kinky side of her. I check his phone and they were her very explicit txt asking him to call her so she could play with her toys. She even sent him pics of her playing with them. They both claim it was never physical, but what is the difference? Anyways, she still works for my H. She has refused to quit, he has refused to fire her. She asked him to get her another phone so her H. does not track anything anymore, so my H did get her a new phone. he claims is only for work. The thing is, this woman is very well known for being such a nice "lady" very proper and decent. I am tempet to deliver fliers with her txt messages all around her neighborhood so people know who she really is. It bother me to think that she keeps doing this and is so friggen cinical on my face she sent love cards to my H. We are ti get a divorce, but it will take time for me, due to money issues, I have done nothing worng, and she goes through like life the perfect wife. She even joined my H and my Daughter to church!!! I am catholic, so I go to another church. Now she is the nice lady who goes to church while I am an atheist!! Is this fair? Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 You realize of course that they are lying about not being physical. Spouses do not bail out of a marriage, tell you that they are in love with the other person, tell you they are moving in with them if they have not already had sex with them. It is an insult to your intelligence that he would expect you to believe that they have not been physical. I suggest that you get tested for STD's. He is lying to you. Link to post Share on other sites
65tr6 Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 I am tempet to deliver fliers with her txt messages all around her neighborhood so people know who she really is.? do it ! expose the Affair to many as you can. Do it now!. Make a list of the people that should know and do it the same day if you can. Dont forget folks at workplace. Is this a big company ? Is this fair? not quite. But then you can sit and wallow in that thinking or take charge. But first.... 1) As Bryan suggested get STD test done now 2) Expose 3) Kick him out...go to marriagebuilders.com and read up on plan A and plan B Implement Plan A/Plan B 4) read, post, read, post, educate yourself. You will grieve, cry, feel sorry for yourself but try to pick up the pieces and see if you can move on. Good luck ! Link to post Share on other sites
joybean72 Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 Yes, expose them both! Screw it...her husband needs to know too! Sorry you are going through this. Link to post Share on other sites
travelgirl Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 First off, I am so sorry you are going thru this. Second off, EXPOSE THEM. Send those flyers off and not just thru the neighborhood but email them out to everyone in their office. Married boss and married office manager doing all of this - EXPOSE it everyone there. Is there anyone above your husband, expose it there too. I am not one for serious revenge if there is issues to work thru but for your H to say this right before a party on New Years and then you find out this is all going on behind your back while you spent time with her and all 4 of you together. You were the ONLY one who didn't know!! I would be beyond pissed off. Link to post Share on other sites
lkjh Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 Expose them. Let the hypocrite worry about her own future. I just feel bad for you and her H. Link to post Share on other sites
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