Stacy81 Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 I need help so bad, I have been going out with CA for 8 years in September, he have lived together for 7 and i am just not happy, i love him so much but in a way i think at times i feel bad for him he has no family, and a bad drug problem, he does take care of me finacially as far as rent and stuff with the house, we have no kids (thank god), i am not saying i am innocent, because i too can get mean with my words, but his flip flop attitude has got to go, he promises me over and over he is going to quit calling names, yelling, he just gets so angry over the stupidest things, he at times will hit my cat because she gets sick, he in the past has hit me but not in over a year, but the name calling goes as far as making fun of my family for whatever it may be a disease that they have or the color of there skin he says he doesn't mean any of it after the fact but it hurts bad and it makes me really angry at him in everyday life cause i cant let it go, i mean when he is great he is great but when he is mean he is the worse, he has said such hurtful things that it makes having sex with him hard, at least when im sober cause i have such a mad feeling, the thing is I cant make it on my own finacially i want to i am scared to be alone, but where do i go from having this for 8 years and not knowing anything else, i have no friends anymore, i dont work (due to not able to), and I have no family to turn to. I just want to be happy and feel free to be me. I dont want to be scared to be me, help me..please.anyones advice would be great Link to post Share on other sites
julkat Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 Stacy, you are in a very abusive relationship and it's not ok for anyone to treat you like this. I know you are scared. I've been there. But being free is worth every difficult minute that you will spend getting there. You need support and it sounds like you are going to have to go looking for it. You can look in your local phone directory for a number of a woman's support group for abused women. Try "Alternatives for Women" or some type of social service agency like that. They will help you to come up with a safe plan to remove yourself from this relationship. They will then provide you with a safe place to stay until you can improve your situation, counselling so you can heal and grow, and resources to get on your own feet. Don't hesitate. The only thing than being in an abusive relationship for 8 years is being in one for 8 years and 1 day. You will survive this. You won't believe how good you will feel one day when it's all over. Good luck and I will be thinking of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stacy81 Posted January 28, 2009 Author Share Posted January 28, 2009 Thank you for your advice i will look into this soon, i just cant do this no more he just left now for work and on the way out put 2 more holes in the wall and kicked our front door in because i forgot to send the phone bill out and they shut it off for 20 minutes i cant do this i am so tired of living in fear, yesterday he was out of control cause i didnt want to talk about money and he choked me i have bruises on my neck and should go to the police but i am to frightened that he will find me i wish i could just die or disappear into thin air, its horrible to think this way but sometimes i wish someone would shot me or do something so it could be all done. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Thank you for your advice i will look into this soon, i just cant do this no more he just left now for work and on the way out put 2 more holes in the wall and kicked our front door in because i forgot to send the phone bill out and they shut it off for 20 minutes i cant do this i am so tired of living in fear, yesterday he was out of control cause i didnt want to talk about money and he choked me i have bruises on my neck and should go to the police but i am to frightened that he will find me i wish i could just die or disappear into thin air, its horrible to think this way but sometimes i wish someone would shot me or do something so it could be all done. Pack your bags...and whatever else you need to take with you...and get the hell out ASAP! If you have no where to go, call or google the nearest womens abuse shelter...do NOT feel ashamed...thats what they are there for...... The longer you stay the longer you expose your chances of being badly hurt worse off than you are. This is not a game this is a serious situation, and you need to treat it as such! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stacy81 Posted February 6, 2009 Author Share Posted February 6, 2009 thank u all i really dont have time to be on here so i gotta rush but thank you all bye Link to post Share on other sites
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