ArtistikEndeavorz Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 I have a p/t job in a restaurant and I like one of my coworkers. He is unmarried, and older. I am not quite sure of his age, though, since he is a private person. I have been crushing on him for a few months now and confided to a coworker about it. She tried to hook us up but he wasn't interested because of my age. I am 26... Anyway, I let the hype die down and she didn't and hasn't betrayed my secret. My coworker says that he is an oddball and thinks I am nuts for liking him, but I can't help it. She thinks I am over him now, though I am not. Right before she talked to him, I stumbled onto his facebook--it turns out that we have similar friends so I added him. He asked my coworker how I found him and acted like I was stalking him. I backed off completely after that and then he suddenly started watching me and being nice. Sometimes he is so sweet and will help me on the job and give me a ride home, then other times he acts like he doesn't like me at all. He finally added me and I wrote him an email telling him that I liked him. I am way too shy to even approach him especially at work. He thanked me and said no problem... The other day, he was joking with me and the day after that he acted as if I had a disease.. My coworker says that he is an oddball and thinks I am nuts for liking him, but I can't help it. I am trying to get over it. I am active in the arts community and am always doing some kind of project. I just wish he would give me a chance before he judges me. What do I do? I have backed off and no one talks about it at work, but he watches me a lot. Sometimes when he is walking by, I get a pat on the back or when he does talk to me, he strokes my arm. I know it's not cool to date coworkers and I am keeping it cool at work. It's just that I can't get his face out of my head and it makes my day when he even smiles at me. I am so irritated with myself for actually liking this guy knowing that if he was interested then he would have asked me out or something by now. Is there any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 ...he wasn't interested because of my age. Oh, OK. That's good. Well, problem solved... My coworker says that he is an oddball and thinks I am nuts for liking him, but I can't help it. Creepy. acted like I was stalking him. Creepy. he suddenly started watching me and being nice. Sometimes he is so sweet and will help me on the job and give me a ride home, then other times he acts like he doesn't like me at all. Creepy/weird. I wrote him an email telling him that I liked him. Creepy/stalker-ish. My coworker says that he is an oddball and thinks I am nuts for liking him, but I can't help it. Creepy. And didn't you already say this? he watches me a lot. Sometimes when he is walking by, I get a pat on the back or when he does talk to me, he strokes my arm. Creepy! Problem solved. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 Is there any advice? Divert your mind and send signals out to other, more healthy males, that you're available. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ArtistikEndeavorz Posted January 20, 2009 Author Share Posted January 20, 2009 It is creepy now that I think about it... I have been trying to divert my mind to other things like writing and listening to music.. It's going to be a slow going because we work almost every day together. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 OP, you gotta know at least one guy who finds you attractive and whom you could have some fun with, even if not long-term. Get out of your funk. It'll help you with the day to day... Link to post Share on other sites
OnTheEdge Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 t. I stumbled onto his facebook Link to post Share on other sites
CandyGirlXO Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 He finally added me and I wrote him an email telling him that I liked him. He knows and he did not respond. Not much more you can do except for move on. Link to post Share on other sites
nana yaw II Posted January 25, 2009 Share Posted January 25, 2009 I have a p/t job in a restaurant and I like one of my coworkers. He is unmarried, and older. I am not quite sure of his age, though, since he is a private person. I have been crushing on him for a few months now and confided to a coworker about it. She tried to hook us up but he wasn't interested because of my age. I am 26... Anyway, I let the hype die down and she didn't and hasn't betrayed my secret. My coworker says that he is an oddball and thinks I am nuts for liking him, but I can't help it. She thinks I am over him now, though I am not. Right before she talked to him, I stumbled onto his facebook--it turns out that we have similar friends so I added him. He asked my coworker how I found him and acted like I was stalking him. I backed off completely after that and then he suddenly started watching me and being nice. Sometimes he is so sweet and will help me on the job and give me a ride home, then other times he acts like he doesn't like me at all. He finally added me and I wrote him an email telling him that I liked him. I am way too shy to even approach him especially at work. He thanked me and said no problem... The other day, he was joking with me and the day after that he acted as if I had a disease.. My coworker says that he is an oddball and thinks I am nuts for liking him, but I can't help it. I am trying to get over it. I am active in the arts community and am always doing some kind of project. I just wish he would give me a chance before he judges me. What do I do? I have backed off and no one talks about it at work, but he watches me a lot. Sometimes when he is walking by, I get a pat on the back or when he does talk to me, he strokes my arm. I know it's not cool to date coworkers and I am keeping it cool at work. It's just that I can't get his face out of my head and it makes my day when he even smiles at me. I am so irritated with myself for actually liking this guy knowing that if he was interested then he would have asked me out or something by now. Is there any advice? I think your approach was wrong. I'm in kind of a similar boat, since at my work there is this girl i like. but i find that it's best to build things up slowly, instead of going all out. she is on facebook, and i've sent her a message, but just with trivial stuff and to say hi. In this situation I'm just starting with small talk and going from there. it's not best, especially professionally since she's my co-worker, to creep her out. Link to post Share on other sites
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