MO3434 Posted January 22, 2009 Share Posted January 22, 2009 I have just started my 198 day journey that will end with my girl being in my arms again. Its sort of tough right now I have this empty feeling most of the time...but i know in the end that empty feeling will be filled with happiness...any suggestions on making it easier to deal with would be great Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted January 22, 2009 Share Posted January 22, 2009 It helps me to constantly put things inperspective. If I focus only on my situation (how long it has been, when will it be that we will be together, that we can't talk that often and other people can, etc.) then I can go into a tailspin. If I remember there are those so much more unfortunate. There are those people who have never found what I have, who have lost their loved ones, or who have lived in another time and had it soooo much worse than I have. Imagine living in the era of WWII. There are those that were separated from the ones they loved and had no way of contact. They would write letters and send them off not knowing if that person was still alive or not and not knowing if they got the letters or not. Both the soldiers and those at home had that same issue. Now we have phones, computers (although I personally can't use this particular technology), and letters, etc. We have immediate contact. So we are very lucky. And I have found my true love. I know who he is and have that fulfillment in my life when others do not. So I am very lucky. Although it has been going on 7 years that we have bee separated, he is alive and we do have the eventual opportunity to be together. So I am very lucky. If you need ideas to pass the time there are many here who can provide answers. For me, I write letters to him, I focus on myself and doing nice things for me like hot bubble baths, etc. I also have made care boxes for him that surprise him with all kinds of things. Some things from home (here) that he can't get there. Reminders of times we have had together (like a checkered napkin that I found which looked like our picnic blanket) and I pin or stick notes on those things with a special comment about that memory. Get a bit creative and you will find there is so much you can do. I am glad you have found someone you can care for so deeply and that you have the chance at such fulfillment. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Marigoldlove Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 I don't know why you are apart, but trying to stay in contact makes life a lot easier. Mailing letters, pictures, cards etc. is a really good way to get closer, also sending memories back and forth helps you relive your past and be excited for the future instead of sad. I know for myself, I have been 435 days without my boyfriend and it has been extremely difficult. I have a countdown on my computer which keeps me positive and i constantly go threw pictures from before, and letters that he has written me just to stay focused. Being positive and looking forward to the time that you will spend with her..is a lot better for you than being sad about the time without her. Try and enjoy your regular life and include her in it. Like I did _this__ today...wish you were here, or it made me think of that time. That way she knows your still thinking of her Link to post Share on other sites
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