hunter Posted September 24, 2003 Share Posted September 24, 2003 I work in an office with an older married man and we let our emotions get the better of us, yes we both know it was wrong. We get along great and are there for each other in an emotional relationship. My problem is that I have totally fallen in love with him, he does not know this. I am in a relationship where there is no love or affection shown to me. The co-worker has been there and given me more affection that I have ever gotten at home. Sorry I am a woman and I have needs to. (No we have not had a sexual relationship). I am lying if I told you that I don't want one. Feeling guilty, the co-worker told me that he was in love with and committed to his wife, and that is great I am happy for him, his wife is a sweetheart. I hate myself for wanting him and would die if she ever knew. So we have stopped the personal things that we have done - the touchy feely things. We also had a heart to heart talk about why we are not getting more involved and that is fine with me. However I have to see him everyday and my heart is breaking and I think that he knows this. He has told me time and time again that he is sorry if he caused me to like him, but what can he say he is a great guy to work with and I see him interacting with his wife and kids. I never wanted to fall in love with him, I am not a bad person. I am just finding it difficult to work with him. We both make great money at this job, so I can not leave it. Link to post Share on other sites
2SidestoStories Posted September 29, 2003 Share Posted September 29, 2003 I never wanted to fall in love with him, I am not a bad person. Emotions are an inexplicable and uncontrollable thing; it is what we choose to do with them that makes the difference. I am sorry that you are in pain. I encourage you to sever ties with this man as much as is humanly possible, so that these emotions do not get the better of you. Also to note, if you are in a relationship in which you are unhappy, you ought to put serious consideration into leaving it. I know that it seems like being somewhat unhappy is better than being alone, but the truth is that you have added another nail to the coffin by having the strong bond with your coworker. I am sure you know this, but do not necessarily want to face or admit it; that is an incredibly frightening thing to face. Find your courage and leave your unhappy relationship behind. Once you find that courage, you can do ANYTHING! Best wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
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