lashyr Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 Now before my story my question is would it be out of line to ask my b.f. to let me watch him check his email? The reason i ask is I've been seeing this guy for roughly 8 months and officially dating for 3 months now. We initially hooked up, hung out, then progressed to a physical situation. To make things fun it's a long distance situation, and we saw each other maybe twice a month. To both our friends (we have mutual friends) thought, like i thought, that the two of us were dating. The bad part of the reason we "officially" started dating 3 months ago was due to the miscommunication of what we were doing together. 3 months ago after he used my computer to check his email, i found an email of his by pure accident from some other chick. I decided to give the guy a chance, funny how prior to him i swore i would never take back anyone who cheated on me. yeah, now that i've experienced the tangled webs of life i'm trying to learn to trust him slowly or see if i made a mistake. Now after that story my question is still would it be out of line to ask him to let me watch him check his email. i don't want to check it on my own, i want to ask him and see if he freaks or b.s.'s his way through it. would it be completely paranoid and stupid to ask him to let me do that? help i could use insight, please? Link to post Share on other sites
UnamedSeven Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 To be honest, if he doesn't let you check his e-mail, it may be a sign that he does have something to hide. You told him before that you won't take him back if he is cheating on you so, he already knows the consequences there. I would suggest that you tell him that your just concerned because of how hard it is to keep things together since you both are so far apart from each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 would it be completely paranoid and stupid to ask him to let me do that? Yep, it sure would. If you don't trust him, break up with him. Nothing drives a man away faster than a jealous, insecure, control freak of a gf. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 I would NEVER ask to check a BF's email or read over his shoulder. In fact, my BF often does things on his laptop while next to me on the couch (FB, MS, forums, email, etc.) and I actually readjust myself so that I cannot see the screen. He deserves his privacy. So yes, a request like that would be way out of line. Link to post Share on other sites
lkjh Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 I think its ok. If he doesnt have anything to hide then big deal Link to post Share on other sites
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