snoopy girl Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 for a while now, i have been trying to get my husband to see the wrong in what he does to me, he always say, I DID NOTHING WRONG. why would people hurt the ones that they love? i would never dream of doing the things he has, he flirts with girl in my face. he lies about being with girls at work. he goes to strip culbs. watches porn. e-mails and texts with girls. all behind my back. he seems to always put me in a place where girls are going to act like, girls gone wild. and say. didn't know this was here! the list goes on and on. i never found out if he had an affair. my gut say yes with a co-worker. i think this has come to a head and what do i do from here? i need to know what he is going to do to make it work, but all he said is I DID NOTHING WRONG. what sould i ask of him? he has been doing this for 26 yrs. mostly my fault because i gave to much trust in the lies. now i Know when he lies. and i'm not putting up with his crap anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkKittyKat Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 God, I am so sorry for you to go through this. But he's been waving huge red flags right in your face... Communication is key. You needed to tell him right away. He may be raised to think that's "just what men do", and that he ISN'T doing anything wrong in his own eyes. That is a problem many women run up against when trying to explain how a husband/boyfriend has hurt them. "Oh, men look at porn/see strippers/flirt with younger ladies, it's just how they're wired, get over it and stop being a nagging prude." Which is patently untrue and you should never feel that he is okay to be doing these things. I recommend marriage counseling....but after 26 years of the same behaviour? Old dogs can't always learn new tricks. All my support is with you no matter what you choose. :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoopy girl Posted January 23, 2009 Author Share Posted January 23, 2009 kittykat, your right! i let this go on so long that he thinks its okay. now i want change and its to late. he will not go to a couneling, because he did nothing wrong. my friends tell me to do the samethings to him as he does to me, but he will not let it happen, he is very controlling, do as i say not as i do. i need a back bone. i feel like i do need to find someone like me. i'm not getting younger and i don't want to be alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 dumbasses like your husband think they aren't doing anything wrong if they don't actually have sex with someone else. Maybe its time for you to get out and live a little. Go put some dollars in some g-strings yourself. Flirt with me and see how he likes it. But then again, sounds like he could care less about you. Maybe you should divorce and find someone in tune with your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoopy girl Posted January 24, 2009 Author Share Posted January 24, 2009 dexter, hey, lets have fun, your right. maybe its time to live alittle, he said he cares about me but if he did he would not do what he does. i have alot of thinking to do. thank you all for you help. i really needed to talk to someone who cares. love to all. Link to post Share on other sites
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