FRIENDS Posted January 25, 2009 Share Posted January 25, 2009 As I am extremely interested in meeting a spouse and starting a family (I am 32), I am always open to suggestions that will help make it happen. I was wondering if a life coach would be useful for my social issues. I was extremely sheltered when I was young and not allowed to expose myself to social situations. Now, I make it a point to socialize. I have been told that even though I am extremely confident, I am not projecting an image of confidence. Part of it is body language and I am working on that with an Alexander Technique coach. However, I have also been told that I can be quite clingy to others. In addition, I have been told that I maintain too much eye contact with others and if they tilt their face one way, I will automatically follow their lead. In addition, I have been told that I am not good at ending conversations. Furthermore, I have been told that I am not as good at interacting with people I have never met before than most others are. Also, is there anything in addition to/ instead of seeing a life coach that would be beneficial? Thanks so much for your tips. Link to post Share on other sites
citizen67 Posted January 25, 2009 Share Posted January 25, 2009 who is telling you all this negative stuff about yourself? IMO it is going to be very hard for you to have normal interactions with people if you are worried about how you are tilting your head, how you are going to end the conversation etc. Why do you seem to think you are not normal about all of this? I think the "normal" range is actually quite broad Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 25, 2009 Share Posted January 25, 2009 well if it makes you feel any better I've had people say far worse about my social skills. Don't worry about this stuff and just be yourself, the only thing you need is confidence... and what confidence boils down to is simple, all you have to do is not let fear stop you from doing the things you want to do. Link to post Share on other sites
knaveman Posted January 25, 2009 Share Posted January 25, 2009 Don't over think it too much. Relax and be yourself, not what someone else thinks you should be. If you have to try to be something other than yourself to attract people then they won't end up liking you when the real you comes through. It's disingenuous. Link to post Share on other sites
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