jrobbies Posted September 25, 2003 Share Posted September 25, 2003 My older sister and I are best friends. For the past 3 weeks we've been hanging out with some old friends (and have met some new people) at a weekly event at school. This one new guy we've met is great, he's funny, and really nice, but I'm not attracted to him in any other way than just a friend. My sister, on the other hand, is really interested in him, which I think is great. Anyway, last night, he ended up asking me out! I feel so guilty I am used to telling my sister everything, but her self-esteem is so low, I want to spare her this hurt. I would never go out with him (especially if my sister was interested). What should I tell him? (I am not sure if he knows that my sister likes him). I didn't really answer him as we were getting ready to leave at that point. I just don't want things to be awkward. my sister kept saying to me after we left last night how she noticed these little things that he'd say do, that mean he might like her (which could also be true). please help! Link to post Share on other sites
Reckless Posted September 25, 2003 Share Posted September 25, 2003 Mmm difficult one - well, firstly make it quite clear that you are absolutely not interested in going out with him. And do this as soon as possible. As for your sister, she would probably be hurt if she heard you had tried to palm her off as some kind of consolation prize "I'm not interested but my sister is..." Others may disagree with me but I'd say, just refuse the offer and don't mention your sister. He saw her and, if I understand correctly spent equal amounts of time with her, so he doesn't need you to point her out and he doesn't seem shy or indecisive he's more than capable of moving on to ask your sister out, if he so desires. The temptation is to give cupid a helping hand but in this situation I'd let it go... Would I mention anything to my sister?! There's the rub, girl talk being what it is, she'll probably ask if you think he likes her. Like the saying goes, just say no (soften the blow a little). I don't believe in hurting people unnecessarily, he may be out of the picture before your coffee's cold so why allow him and his decisions to come between you and your sister. And if they eventually get together, it's up to him to decide if he wants to tell her he asked you out first. I doubt if he will. Link to post Share on other sites
serenity Posted September 26, 2003 Share Posted September 26, 2003 just say no - i agree with that -- as u already say u are not interested in him it should be easy enough -- u dont have to tell your sister and you dont owe this man an explanation as to why u said no Link to post Share on other sites
Jamie31 Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 I would just tell him that you aren't really interested in dating him at the moment. Don't be mean about it, and tell him that your sister likes him because that might make him resent her and not like her. And don't tell your sis. Just spare her that info...telling her won't benefit her at all. Maybe talk about your sister and how great she is in front of him and maybe he will become interested in her. Link to post Share on other sites
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