How am I supposed to react now?

[MomN2Plus1]

ok- long story short, my husband and I have been married 5 years now and have struggled financially most of this time. He has major depression issues that are just now beginning to get better, thanks to new medication. I have loved him all along and thought he felt the same. I have tw children from a prior marriage, one living out of state, one with us. I lost my job in Oct after a long and difficult recovery from injury in July. My husband has been very distant for the past 4 months or more, leaving me bewildered. I have always supported his choices, and been there for him durring his bleakest moments. Now that I am struggling to get a job, he has made hurtful statements that nothing I do around the house or for the family (although appreciated) is enough to make up for the fact that his credit is screwed up worse now than when we met. (he was a student in a totally different field with great financial promise at that time) I have been the one who worked full time 65+ hours to support us when he was "finding himself" and waiting for the job that would make him happy (hes happy but makes very low income) now he yells at me to take just any job-no matter if it is what I want to do or not. He was very cruel when I was working all the hours making great money before saying I was putting work before him and the family (not true since I still did all they asked as well as cared for the house) Now I have taken on all home responsibility alone- none for our ten daughter-since I am home- because he is expecting that everything be done at all times since I have no excuses- but I am still supposed to find time to look, interview and get a job. He has been so distant and hurtufll that we have traded intamacy for arguments so much that I asked him to move into the guest room. It is too painful for me to see him avoid me constantly and to "flaunt" his body when I cannot have it- or a hug or a kiss. I always thought he would be there for me when my chips were down also, I have been there for me- but now we are sepperated (but still in the same home) and I dont know what my reaction to him is supposed to be. He says he hasnt decided if he wants a divorce or not, he just needs to think, but that he cannot be there for me to talk to- and he has made cruel comments about why I cant seem to find a job...as thought the econemy isnt bad! what am I supposed to do? I have been so isolated from friends by moving out of state at his request- another job venture he didnt stick with- and my family is out of state and would simply tell me to divorce him. Any other ideas? - or jobs? I'm a great office/admin addition!