Loss 4 words Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 I'm planning on proposing to my current GF on valentine's day this year but cant think of any good "standout" proposal ideas.... I wanna do something that she'll remember and brag to her friends about for years to come. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Take her back to the place you first met - the first instant you laid eyes on her..... It also depends on your budget. I thought you could hire a band, or fly her to Paris..... Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Do you plan on doing it in front of people? Just the two of you? I personally think that it is best when it is just a private moment. Then you get to go run and tell everybody!!! I think my ideal proposal would be for my BF to take me out to dinner at the Olive Garden (my favorite restaurant) then when we got home he would light a few candles, give a little speech, and get down on one knee to propose. Then we would go spill the beans to everyone! That's a suggestion though. You know her best, is this going to be some huge surprise? Do you want to do it with just the two of you. IMO I think you should proposal a few days AFTER V-day. It will be more of a surprise. She won't expect it as much. Link to post Share on other sites
Squirtal Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 A friend of mine wanted to Propose to her partner on leap year last year. They were going to a little country cottage. She and her friend got lots of cushions in bright colours and sewed "Will you Marry me?" on them. He ended up proposing in bed on Valentines day in the card and whisking her off to Harrods to buy a ring..and spending the night at the Dorchester...she still wanted to do her thing, so her friends set up the cottage as they drove down a couple of weeks later..so they both proposed..it was so lovely. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted January 28, 2009 Author Share Posted January 28, 2009 Do you plan on doing it in front of people? Just the two of you? I personally think that it is best when it is just a private moment. Then you get to go run and tell everybody!!! I think my ideal proposal would be for my BF to take me out to dinner at the Olive Garden (my favorite restaurant) then when we got home he would light a few candles, give a little speech, and get down on one knee to propose. Then we would go spill the beans to everyone! That's a suggestion though. You know her best, is this going to be some huge surprise? Do you want to do it with just the two of you. IMO I think you should proposal a few days AFTER V-day. It will be more of a surprise. She won't expect it as much. The main reason i wann do it on V-day is becasue it's also our 6 month aniv. on that day too.... Link to post Share on other sites
girlygirl25 Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 The main reason i wann do it on V-day is becasue it's also our 6 month aniv. on that day too.... You've only been together 6 months? Hmm, isn't that a little too soon? Have you even talked about marriage? Sorry to rain on your parade, but this may freak her out! Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 The main reason i wann do it on V-day is becasue it's also our 6 month aniv. on that day too.... Wait, huh? I thought you'd been together for years or something. Wow that's not that long of a time AT ALL..you guys don't know much about each other. Plus most likely you are still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship. I doubt you know all her faults and have had enough time to iron out the "kinks" in your relationship. How old are you two anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted January 28, 2009 Author Share Posted January 28, 2009 Wait, huh? I thought you'd been together for years or something. Wow that's not that long of a time AT ALL..you guys don't know much about each other. Plus most likely you are still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship. I doubt you know all her faults and have had enough time to iron out the "kinks" in your relationship. How old are you two anyway? NO, the honeymoon phase waived byebye long ago. We like others have our good days and bad days together, we argue (nothing big), have momnents where we dont wanna be bothered, but all around we have out love together. We both are quite close and know eachothers faults. We have spent ALOT of time together over the last alomst 6 months and we've had our ups and downs of the relationship...we've worked out most of the bugs so soon. We are both 24. She has kids and i have none. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 NO, the honeymoon phase waived byebye long ago. We like others have our good days and bad days together, we argue (nothing big), have momnents where we dont wanna be bothered, but all around we have out love together. We both are quite close and know eachothers faults. We have spent ALOT of time together over the last alomst 6 months and we've had our ups and downs of the relationship...we've worked out most of the bugs so soon. We are both 24. She has kids and i have none. Oh you def. sound like you need some more time before you get married. You need to get used to your relationship. Believe me more issues will come. More faults, more fights. This isn't going to be it. Plus this girl has kids. How many, and what ages? Are you ready to be a stepfather? Is there father in the picture? What is the custody agreement? Have you talked any of this over with your gf? Do you know if she is ready for marriage right now? Are her kids? Sorry to say but I think you are jumping the gun a little. Could it work out? Yeah. But you def. need to sort of some issues before taking such a big step. It doesn't sound like you have done that yet. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Wellllll, there are going to be relationship issues whether they are married or not, right ? ! I think it's rather sweet that he's ready to committ to this woman AND her kids. Obviously he's willing to be a step dad or he wouldn't be proposing ! I think people wait TOO long thses days, waiting for all " issues" to be sorted out, which never happens, and by then they are taking each other for granted. I watched this happen to my sister : 13 years of dating and living together, she wanted to marry, he didn't. Of course he ended up cheating on her and marrying THAT woman. I think either way can work if you are BOTH committed to making it work. No clue on the proposal idea......well...if you want all your friends to be part of it, you could throw a party and ask her in the middle in front of everybody. ( though it will be awfully embarrasing if she says No !) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted January 28, 2009 Author Share Posted January 28, 2009 Oh you def. sound like you need some more time before you get married. You need to get used to your relationship. Believe me more issues will come. More faults, more fights. This isn't going to be it. Plus this girl has kids. How many, and what ages? Are you ready to be a stepfather? Is there father in the picture? What is the custody agreement? Have you talked any of this over with your gf? Do you know if she is ready for marriage right now? Are her kids? Sorry to say but I think you are jumping the gun a little. Could it work out? Yeah. But you def. need to sort of some issues before taking such a big step. It doesn't sound like you have done that yet. She has 2 kids, both toddlers, we've talked about marriage quite a bit. I am ready to be in the kids' lifes more beacause their father is a deadbeat and rarely sees them. There is no formal court order, but is ordered to pay support. She IS ready to settle down and get married...and we've discussed at great length about what would happen with the kids and all when we do get married.... So it's not like we're still on honeymoon, we've seen and been with eachother almost everyday since we got together so our relationship has progressed faster than normally... Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 She has 2 kids, both toddlers, we've talked about marriage quite a bit. I am ready to be in the kids' lifes more beacause their father is a deadbeat and rarely sees them. There is no formal court order, but is ordered to pay support. She IS ready to settle down and get married...and we've discussed at great length about what would happen with the kids and all when we do get married.... So it's not like we're still on honeymoon, we've seen and been with eachother almost everyday since we got together so our relationship has progressed faster than normally... Okay, well that's great then. I saw my friend make this mistake with her ex fiance, they jumped into an engagement wwwwaaaayyyy too fast before they really knew each other and all their issues and broke off the engagement before they got married. I realize years and years is too long, and I have seen many marriages work out between couples who have been together a short period of time. Just make sure you aren't jumping into something you aren't ready for. Link to post Share on other sites
andwhoknew Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 What sort of person is she? What does she like? What are your favorite things to do together? Is she quiet or outgoing? Relaxed or energetic? Does she like surprises? Hate surprises? Give us a few hints about her as a person -- not just what her friends might think -- and maybe we can help you come up with something fantastic! Link to post Share on other sites
JennaGennaro Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 "She has 2 kids, both toddlers, we've talked about marriage quite a bit. I am ready to be in the kids' lifes more beacause their father is a deadbeat and rarely sees them. ...." You sound like a good man. My stepfather adopted me and my brother when we were young and he told my mom that he did NOT want to be stepfather. Therefore, he IS our DAD. And he always treated us as if we were his flesh and blood. As far as the engagement, it is a little quick, but I think the same thing happened with my parents. They did not get married for a year later, though. It is hard to gauge when one should get married. Most would say (and have said that it is too soon, but if you feel it is right, then you know. My parents have been together for 12 years, so it worked for them. Sometimes the woman just chooses the wrong man the first time. I think the majority are throwing up red flags because of all the broken souls out there who did not choose their mates carefully and ended up in divorce - they are only trying to be helpful. As for proposal ideas. There is another guy who started a thread on that subject and he got a few ideas. You might want to search the old threads. I also think there are articles online as well. Good luck!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted January 28, 2009 Author Share Posted January 28, 2009 What sort of person is she? What does she like? What are your favorite things to do together? Is she quiet or outgoing? Relaxed or energetic? Does she like surprises? Hate surprises? Give us a few hints about her as a person -- not just what her friends might think -- and maybe we can help you come up with something fantastic! She's mostly quiet. She likes trucks, muddin, cars...def not your typical girly girl. She is mostly relaxed until the kids start acting up. She loves suprises but always seems to find a way to squeeze them out of me and the people that i tell. We enjoy going out together to dinner and a movie when the kids are with their "sperm donor" and just hanging out even if we're doing nothing. We are like the song, She's a "little country" and im a "little rock and roll"...complete opisites as far as music taste goes but we find common ground in enjoying eacothers' company and going out with each. Link to post Share on other sites
andwhoknew Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Hmm.. trucks, cars, mud, dinner and a movie.... The only thing I got on that is to plan dinner and a movie, but when you get in the car to go pretend it won't start. Pop the hood and ask her to look under the hood, where you, surprise, have duct-taped the ring or a message. Then blast your country/rock and roll song (or your song, if you have one) on the truck stereo. Or you could get down on one knee, pretending to look at the oil dripping under the engine, then pop the question Tell her you don't want to/can't go anywhere without her, to tie in the car theme. Or you could have dinner first and pull this on the way home, but I'd be nervous driving any length of distance with a ring taped under the hood. Never know what could happen to it. Seriously, everyone knows to look in the champagne glass. But under the car hood? Now that's unexpected. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted January 29, 2009 Author Share Posted January 29, 2009 Hmm.. trucks, cars, mud, dinner and a movie.... The only thing I got on that is to plan dinner and a movie, but when you get in the car to go pretend it won't start. Pop the hood and ask her to look under the hood, where you, surprise, have duct-taped the ring or a message. Then blast your country/rock and roll song (or your song, if you have one) on the truck stereo. Or you could get down on one knee, pretending to look at the oil dripping under the engine, then pop the question Tell her you don't want to/can't go anywhere without her, to tie in the car theme. Or you could have dinner first and pull this on the way home, but I'd be nervous driving any length of distance with a ring taped under the hood. Never know what could happen to it. Seriously, everyone knows to look in the champagne glass. But under the car hood? Now that's unexpected. I like that idea...i never thought of that at all....glad others have ideas..LOL Thanks andwhoknew, I'm really feelin that idea...again, thank you so much... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Are you sure she doesn't have the girly side to her for romantic things? I ask this because even though a girl likes cars, etc., it doesn't mean she doesn't like a bit of romance in her proposal. What else is she like? You've stated she's quiet, enjoys cars, trucks, country music, her children and movies. What kind of movies does she enjoy? What kind of food does she like? Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 You know her best, what kind of suprise do you think she would like? See the difficulty will proposing so early in a relationship is that you are unsure about these things. It's just kind of interesting phenonenom, because when girls come on here and say they want to get married after 6 months everyone flips out, but when a guy wants to it's cool. Not trying to make anyone feel bad, just an observation. Anyway, you have heard our ideas OP, what are some of your's? After all this IS your proposal. Maybe we can give you some "pointers." Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted January 29, 2009 Author Share Posted January 29, 2009 You know her best, what kind of suprise do you think she would like? See the difficulty will proposing so early in a relationship is that you are unsure about these things. It's just kind of interesting phenonenom, because when girls come on here and say they want to get married after 6 months everyone flips out, but when a guy wants to it's cool. Not trying to make anyone feel bad, just an observation. Anyway, you have heard our ideas OP, what are some of your's? After all this IS your proposal. Maybe we can give you some "pointers." I was thinking of hiding it under my computer chair and then late evening get up and as im walking to sit downn in it, i'll "accidently trip" and stumble up and ask her then...or leave it in her coat pocket and when we are out and about she'll feel it and pull it out...and no matter where we are, i'll get down on one knee and ask her then....or putting it in my pocket and act all suprised that something is in there and pull it out then...something sutle like that...im thinkin def. on doing something not normal..as she tells me that i am not normal either...lol Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 I was thinking of hiding it under my computer chair and then late evening get up and as im walking to sit downn in it, i'll "accidently trip" and stumble up and ask her then...or leave it in her coat pocket and when we are out and about she'll feel it and pull it out...and no matter where we are, i'll get down on one knee and ask her then....or putting it in my pocket and act all suprised that something is in there and pull it out then...something sutle like that...im thinkin def. on doing something not normal..as she tells me that i am not normal either...lol Haha, I like the "computer chair" proposal. I don't think the coat idea is the best, I tend to lose stuff that is in my pockets. It could easily fall out, especially if she doesn't know it's there. I def. think the computer chair proposal has some potential. A way you could start it out would be to tell her you wanted to show her something on the computer. Then when she comes in with you, "accidently trip" as you are sitting down, grab the box and say something like "Oh, I found something!" Then turn around and open the box and say "here see!" Then get down on one knee and propose! That would actually be an awesome proposal! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loss 4 words Posted February 2, 2009 Author Share Posted February 2, 2009 I was also thinking of hiding it inside of my computer (it has an expansion bay that opens up to the inside and thinking of hiding it in there...then tell her i got a new drive and when i go to pull it out, be like WTF?!, what is this...and have her open it and then ill get down on one knee.... Link to post Share on other sites
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