Does he love me?

[CONFUSED]

Well there is this guy and I really thought he loved me. And I love him to. After a long year of being together he cheated on me. Now he is living with this same girl he cheated on me with. I talked to him last night and he still says he loves me. We have been through so much together and I do believe that he loves me and what he did was an accident . He apologizes all the time. But since we have broken up I have found a guy that treats me like a queen. He will do anything for me but I am just not attracted to him. Iguess I just compare him to much. I do miss the first guy and know I shouldn't go back to him but my heart keeps telling me too. What do I do? Should I drop the nice guy and take a chance of being hurt again?

 

-CONFUSED

[Jesaco]

Well there is this guy and I really thought he loved me. And I love him to. After a long year of being together he cheated on me. Now he is living with this same girl he cheated on me with. I talked to him last night and he still says he loves me. We have been through so much together and I do believe that he loves me and what he did was an accident . He apologizes all the time. But since we have broken up I have found a guy that treats me like a queen. He will do anything for me but I am just not attracted to him. Iguess I just compare him to much. I do miss the first guy and know I shouldn't go back to him but my heart keeps telling me too. What do I do? Should I drop the nice guy and take a chance of being hurt again? -CONFUSED

Hi!

 

The guy who lives with another girl right now does not love you romantically. He may care for you, but I doubt even that, if it doesn't bother him that you are hurting. And the other guy may love you, but a happy long term relationship won't last if you're not attracted to him. I would advise you to forget about the first guy, and keep the second one as a close friend. And go out and meet people and start dating again. Spend time with people who care about you. And people you enjoy spending time with. And go out with people you are attracted to and are interested in getting to know.

 

Jesaco

[Thomas]

Love is not a measurable quanity nor a constant one. Sometimes people love others with all their heart and a time later they pay them no mind. Love has to be a mutual thing and fine tuned constantly with caring, communication, respect, forgiveness, consideration, etc., etc.

 

I am sure your ex loved you...and now loves you. But what is absent now is committment to you. If there is no committment, you can certainly love someone with all your heart but there can be no traditional relationship. So when we seek love, just as much we seek love with committment.

 

Now, he apolgizes to you all the time (as you say) but he is living with someone else. Take a hint. If you don't like this new guy so much, keep on looking...give yourself time to heal...and find someone who you can love and be in a mutually fulfilling COMMITTED relationship.

 

It know you can do it. It happens all the time. I am so very sorry for what you are going through.

[OrlandoTommy]

Sounds like my situation exactly to a tee. Email me if you want to exchange sob stories <e-mail address removed>

Well there is this guy and I really thought he loved me. And I love him to. After a long year of being together he cheated on me. Now he is living with this same girl he cheated on me with. I talked to him last night and he still says he loves me. We have been through so much together and I do believe that he loves me and what he did was an accident . He apologizes all the time. But since we have broken up I have found a guy that treats me like a queen. He will do anything for me but I am just not attracted to him. Iguess I just compare him to much. I do miss the first guy and know I shouldn't go back to him but my heart keeps telling me too. What do I do? Should I drop the nice guy and take a chance of being hurt again? -CONFUSED

[lithiumsplit]

yeah..i know it.. it's hard for you.

 

but.. i think sometimes that's better to be loved.