i don't think she would cheat on me, but i am kind of suspicious

[bobbert]

my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost a year now. she has been acting quite strange lately. she has starting hanging out with a guy friend of her's more often. when he calls her and i'm with her, she won't answer his calls. when she does answer his calls, i have noticed that she never mentions me to him. when i try to call her when she's hanging out with him, her cell-phone never seems to work. when i ask if i can meet him, she tells me that we wouldn't get along and she doesn't want me to meet him. lately, we have not had many sexual encounters. she would always say that she's either sick, too tired, or she had a migraine. all of which are very possible. about a week ago, i asked her why she hasn't wanted to have sex with me. she told me that she just has not been feeling very sexy. she has gained a few pounds, but i told her that it does not matter to me. but she still insists that it matters to her. when ever i mention the possibility of something happening between her and her friend, she insists nothing would ever happen, and lists, seemingly valid, reasons. i don't think she would cheat on me, but i am kind of suspicious, what should i do.

 

any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[BlockHead]

Her behavior seems very suspicious. I think she has something to hide.

 

I know that there are women out there who won’t break off a relationship without having another one to take its place. Women like that lack the security to function on their own.

[bryanp]

I am afraid you would have to be in big time denial not to believe she is cheating on you.

She certainly does not sound like girlfriend. She sounds like the OM's girlfriend. It is ridiculous for you to put up with this behavior. She is hanging with another man and she is your girlfriend? You need to open eyes because it sounds like she has already left you in many ways. You deserve better than this.

[bobbert]

now that i think of it, i may have left out some crucial information about her guy friend. she refers to him as her gay friend, but he really isn't gay. she just moved back to town and doesn't really have any other friends here beside him. she told me that she looks at him as a girl friend. when they do hang out, it is usually only for short periods of time, 2 hours max, and usually not late at night. she always calls me when she's done hanging out with him. but, something just still seems odd. i might just be paranoid, but i don't know.

[Jamie31]

It's very hard when you think your significant other is being perfidious.

 

 

 

I try to use a new word in a sentance at least once a day...ok, I only started trying today..but today my word was perfidious.

[bryanp]

How do you think your girlfriend would feel and act if the roles were reversed? If she refers to him as her gay friend and he is not it means she is opening up to him totally and feels secure about it.

She is in an emotional affair. In addition, there is no reason to find new girlfriends as long as he is her good friend now. Open your eyes. He is a guy. He is not gay. Does he have a girlfriend? Why is he spending so much time with her? Don't you think he wishes he was her boyfriend? She sounds like a cakewoman. The examples you gave previously indicates this guy is more than a friend. It sounds like she is a cakewoman enjoying the company of two men. Communication is the key in a relationship and it sounds like she is getting closer and communicating with him more and more.

I hate to say it but so many men are so blind. How come you do not hang out with other friends who are women? You do not because you feel it is wrong since you have a girlfriend. On the other hand she feels it is acceptable to hang with this other man. Intestesting that since she has been hanging with him she does not feel like having sex with you and she never answers her cell phone when she is with him. You are in denial but it will be learning experience for you in the future. I wish you luck.

[Nostalghia]

Originally posted by bryanp

How do you think your girlfriend would feel and act if the roles were reversed? If she refers to him as her gay friend and he is not it means she is opening up to him totally and feels secure about it.

She is in an emotional affair. In addition, there is no reason to find new girlfriends as long as he is her good friend now. Open your eyes. He is a guy. He is not gay. Does he have a girlfriend? Why is he spending so much time with her? Don't you think he wishes he was her boyfriend? She sounds like a cakewoman. The examples you gave previously indicates this guy is more than a friend. It sounds like she is a cakewoman enjoying the company of two men. Communication is the key in a relationship and it sounds like she is getting closer and communicating with him more and more.

I hate to say it but so many men are so blind. How come you do not hang out with other friends who are women? You do not because you feel it is wrong since you have a girlfriend. On the other hand she feels it is acceptable to hang with this other man. Intestesting that since she has been hanging with him she does not feel like having sex with you and she never answers her cell phone when she is with him. You are in denial but it will be learning experience for you in the future. I wish you luck.

Just out of curiousity, wtf is a Cakewoman?!

 

To the guy who started this thread, take it from someone that cheated on a girlfriend .... she's boinking him big time and using the SAME excuses I used on my girlfriend. And the fact she doesn't answer his calls in FRONT of you ... open your eyes man cause DENIAL ain't no river in Africa!