I broke up with her, but still can't forget.

[WiseOne1]

Do exactly what BackOnTrack2 says, don't do anything, don't text, don't answer calls....NOTHING!

 

Think about it, shes the one with all of the friends, and the new bf, and however she still cannot get her mind off you, dude your golden.

[WiseOne1]

Me again, I have so much advice about the issue, but it doesn't seem like you want her back, if so I have that advice, if not just keep up with Nc, jus know that she'll never give up, atlest until 2 years down the line.

[DJMarky]

sounds like your ex is a basketcase man lol good job on the NC, its hard.

 

Look at it this way though, obviously the NC is really messing with her or she wouldnt have freaked out like that. That should just be more motivation to keep goin with it. What else could she possibly do now lol other than get more and more torn up by not talking to you!

 

Good point. The angrier she gets, the happier I get, she is after all the one who inflicted this on herself.

 

It's now in concrete, I see exactly what your ex is doing!!! Hmmm

She’s using your for validation, she’s hurt very badly, my guess is this new guy is treating her like she**, he cares so less about her, that he doesn't even want to spend the time even debating with her over the smallest issue.

 

So she contacts you and every little time you get mad, or curse her, or whatever it maybe, it makes her feel good for 2 reasons,

 

1. She feels better because she can show it to her friends, and also tell her friends how your treating her and since she’s a liar possibly making her self look good, like she’s being stalked!

 

2. She feels better because regardless if you interact with her in a bad or good way, she knows she still has someone that loves her, as long as she can get a reaction out of you, rather it be good or bad, she’s done her job!

 

Don't you see, you have her going crazy!! She is really the pathetic one, she’s the one who's toting you and contacting you, if she was really happy with this new guy you would be the last thing that is on her mind.

 

I know the guy she went to, he is a huge pushover. He is pretty much a virgin, well before he met my slut of an ex. Anyways, I think she got bored of him so quickly because he would do whatever she asked, and now since I am not jumping through hoops for her it is driving her crazy.

 

Also, good point about her contacting me. If she was happy she wouldn't even contact me. Hell, when I started dating my ex I was very happy and didn't feel the need to contact any of my other ex's for any reason whatsoever. The fact she is sending me pictures of her in lingerie, saying she misses me, forwarding me a love email (you know the type that says forward this to 10 people and you will have a great love life - there was one line in that email that I knew was directed at me, it went, 'the person you are most attracted to will return to you'.) and trying to get in contact with me all the time to meet up and discuss 'us'. She either wants me back, or wants me to want her back so she feels like she can get anyone she wants. Who knows, she is messed up in the head. I am sure this is just a game to her, she just wants me to want her so she can get some personal gratification. Who knows. I am serious when I say she has so many issues I don't know how her brain works.

 

Do exactly what BackOnTrack2 says, don't do anything, don't text, don't answer calls....NOTHING!

 

Think about it, shes the one with all of the friends, and the new bf, and however she still cannot get her mind off you, dude your golden.

 

I plan on going down this track, since it is obviously having an affect on her.

 

Me again, I have so much advice about the issue, but it doesn't seem like you want her back, if so I have that advice, if not just keep up with Nc, jus know that she'll never give up, atlest until 2 years down the line.

 

Man, getting back with this girl would be like signing up for more heart break. She will leave me as soon as she finds someone else she wants to chase after. She is a cheating whore.

 

I wish she would give up and leave me the **** alone, part of me is glad I am important to her (as a person, goal, who knows), but the other part knows she is the devil and nothing good will come out of discussing anything.

 

She is a huge whore who has a compulsion to splurt out bull**** to make herself look good, no matter the situation, plain and simple. All her friends probably assume I am harassing her and wanting to get back with her, crying on the phone etc, I am not kidding she would say that **** to make herself look like hot ****.

 

Hahah, as you can see there is no way I want her back.

 

Though, I am curious as to what you would say if I did want her back BUT I don't want to go down that path ever, so I think it's best if I don't know. Who knows what I will say or do when drunk.

 

I met these hot eurasian (my type!) ex-pats over in Japan when snowboarding. Anyways, just talking to one of them last night for a couple of hours on msn made me forget about my ex, just basic flirting and joking around. I think I just need another girl to replace her.

[WiseOne1]

There's no maybe, no but, nothing that's not predictable about her feelings, its just that she ruined it...yes she damaged your (foundation) so severly, so bad that here pride won't allow her to return.

 

And think about it or a second, How Can She? She's had some of the biggesy mistakes in the book of love.

 

She's lied on you, turned the entire sistuation on your like it was your fault, she would love to come back to you, but she's embarrased.

 

She sits down and thinks to herself how can I ever go back after all I did to him, said about him, treated him, she's thinking long term, its possible that you and her could have recovered from this issue, but she fears and knows things won't ever be the same again between you and her, both of your familys, y'all friends.

 

Bassically she did not do the normal ex burning bridge, she collapsed the bridge. This may 86.5% of the time it will!! Cause her to feel like she has no choice but to move on.

 

You might not understand exactly what I'm saying but I would say you guys would be together by now, and your probably thinking that the lieing thing was not a big deal, however its a very big deal.

 

When you think about it you probably could put everything behind you but the "she tried to make me out of the bad guy".

[BackonTrack2]

hey dude, i'm just happy you didn't do what i did... look you broke up and your like healing, you got great advice, people saved you, kept you focus, japan was a good distraction... looks like you didn't slip into depression... because you sure was heading there.

 

looks like everything turned out good... just keep walking, she's a whore and slut, you don't want her as wife....

 

she leave you when your married with kids and have that dog with the white picket fence.

[DJMarky]

I am glad you are getting there backontrack, you have really helped me.

 

Thanks everyone, I wasn't going to bump this thread and let it die, but things have happened and I ended up breaking NC.

 

So I got really drunk and smsed her. It was SO stupid and one of my weak moments. I had been fine when I have gone out drinking (like in Japan) and had the best time, I didn't start missing her and become down but this one night for some reason I was thinking about the nights we went out and would hold each other/make out then go back to hers. So I smsed her just to say I missed her. SO STUPID I KNOW. AFTER EVERYTHING SHE HAD DONE, I CAN NOT BELIEVE MYSELF. I PUT SO MUCH ENERGY INTO NC AND WAS DOING SO WELL, AHH!! I seriously feel like I let you guys down. I woke up the next day at 2pm (missed going to work) and a huge hangover, and the regret of smsing her.

 

Anyways, she had changed her number and I did not know, so she called me and I answered. I didn't know if this meant she didn't get the sms on her old number or what.

 

Though she was acting as if everything she had just said to me never happened, so I assume she did, and was actually trying to be friends and tell me about her life. You know, after cheating on me, ****ing around with me, insulting me etc. I guess that sms just basically said to her, wow you ****ed me around but I still miss you, feel free to do whatever you wish as I will be here. Anyways, so I listened to the people here and tried to sound happy, and myself, but I don't know how well I did that.

 

She then had the nerve to ask me if I had been going out a lot because every time she drives past mine to her boyfriends my car is gone. My mind went racing, firstly, yes, i live very close to her boyfriend BUT my street is not a main street, in fact it is pretty small, so getting to his by driving past my house/car does not make any sense AT ALL. The only conclusion I got to was that she was trying to see how I reacted and to rub it in, who knows, she's a crazy bitch. Anyways, I tell her I am busy and have to go, she starts saying something and I just interrupt and say bye, she pauses and says bye then I hang up.

 

I then write an email, basically saying things like:

 

"I was having so much fun in Japan, didn't think about you or 'us', then you had to contact me, which just confused the hell out of me. I didn't let it ruin my holiday. Actually, the last week of my holiday at the ski resort was probably the best part but it still got me thinking."

 

"So you contact me to tell me you miss me, want to talk about 'us', **** means nothing to you, you haven't slept with him, followed by a photo of you in your bra."

 

"Then when I come back from Japan I find out you are telling my friends we never dated which is ****ing embarrassing for me, then you get angry at me for no apparent reason, insult me saying you purposely denied me to everyone (oh geez, you were such a great girlfriend), insult my friends, tell me people want to bash me and rub in my face you are ****ing ****. Wow, what a change of heart."

 

"It seems I mean about as much to you as dirt, you can't even tell people that we were going out. Well, you couldn't do that the whole relationship to your ex, but to my friends now!? Seriously, what the **** ***? Not only does it offend me you considered our relationship so meaningless (oh yeh, your first love, I can really see how full off **** that was), it also bothers me that you would have the nerve to now involve people I socialise with for no apparent reason. The only reason I can see is to make yourself appear above me, as if dating me is below you. You met them at the parties I took you to, where I introduced you as my girlfriend, now, we were never dating? Now they just have a bad opinion of you, but of course you think they are all losers so why do you care."

 

"When I wrote that sms I was not thinking. I won't lie, I did miss you, but that is because I was thinking of the *** I fell for. Our relationship was so intense, and I didn't expect it to be thrown away so carelessly. Though, that was a long time ago, things change. I was drunk thinking about the times in your bed, watching movies with you, cuddling and everything, and that is why I smsed you, but that is how all relationships end. They always starts good. Now I want nothing to do with you."

 

"Do not contact me ever again." (I know I was the one to sms her, but I was referring to the numerous other times she contacted me)

 

"I don't know how to make that clear enough, I do not care about you or what you do with the rest of your life. This does not mean I wish that you do not succeed in life, in fact I wish you the best of luck, it is just that I do not care enough to be involved in your life in any way, shape or form."

 

Hopefully this is the end of a saga. I deleted her new number from my call list, so there is no way I can get drunk and dial/sms it from memory. I have blocked + deleted her from msn, removed her from facebook. From now on there should be zero contact between us.

 

Wow, who would have thought a measily 4 month relationship could cause so many issues. I just want to see her when her world comes tumbling down because her looks fade and she realises she can't attract any guy she wants. Ah, actually I don't want to see her ever again.

 

I know I ****ed up, but I don't consider myself back at day one. I mean, I haven't lost my appetite and I can go out drinking with friends without dwelling on her, that one night an exception, which was only for a few minutes before I realised I shouldn't have sent it and went back to party, only remembering about it in the morning.

 

I really hope this is the last time I write to this thread! I will not break NC again.

[DJMarky]

There's no maybe, no but, nothing that's not predictable about her feelings, its just that she ruined it...yes she damaged your (foundation) so severly, so bad that here pride won't allow her to return.

 

And think about it or a second, How Can She? She's had some of the biggesy mistakes in the book of love.

 

She's lied on you, turned the entire sistuation on your like it was your fault, she would love to come back to you, but she's embarrased.

 

She sits down and thinks to herself how can I ever go back after all I did to him, said about him, treated him, she's thinking long term, its possible that you and her could have recovered from this issue, but she fears and knows things won't ever be the same again between you and her, both of your familys, y'all friends.

 

Bassically she did not do the normal ex burning bridge, she collapsed the bridge. This may 86.5% of the time it will!! Cause her to feel like she has no choice but to move on.

 

You might not understand exactly what I'm saying but I would say you guys would be together by now, and your probably thinking that the lieing thing was not a big deal, however its a very big deal.

 

When you think about it you probably could put everything behind you but the "she tried to make me out of the bad guy".

 

Wow, I re-read this and it makes a lot of sense.

 

She lied to me about so many things, and treated me with no respect, and maybe she realises and knows I won't take her back.

 

It sucks I fell for her badly. It made me realise that my other ex was the best girlfriend I could have asked for, yet I took her for granted and broke up with her because she was complaining about me ignoring/not calling her (which she had every right to be), I look back and see just how great she was, I just never fell in love with her, even after 2 years. It's a pity I had to fall for such a bitch.

[Tasha Hedges]

Maybe you should just tell her to leave you alone and go full NC! she sounds like a right bitch. By the sounds of things you could never have a relationship with her anyhow she would drive you crazy!