My husband and his family is so mean to me.

[vitamin-love]

Ok, so recently my husband just got layoff from work. He's been home for two days now and no use. I'm pregnant and full time student, also I'm attending a college that is an hour and 30 minutes away. Yesterday, before going to school I ask him to call my caseworker and set up a time with her so I can go right after school before her office close and talk about applying for food stamp. I also ask him to feed my fishes.

 

You see, I head to school around 6 in the morning and i'm not home until 3 in the afternoon. But then, when I got home my husband was playing poker and sleeve with my father-n-law and my brother-n-laws. They were arguring because there was 4 of them and only 3 can play sleeves. After a while it turn out that my husband, his other brother and his father gotten to play. His younger brother got mad so he ran to his room and slammed to door. ( I didn't see him again until dinner. )

 

I put down my things and help out his younger sister do her homework. She is 13 and addresses me, her sister-n-law, as hey you! That's what she calls me all the time.

 

It was around 5 and they were still playing card in the living room, I was busy doing my homework, but had to quit because I got to get dinner started. (My husband's mom went to work and my other sister in law, the older one, was also busy watching them play cards.)

 

I got up and went to the kitchen and cooked dinner all my myself. ( I do this everynight by the way )

 

After dinner, the boys headed right back into the games again. I finally remember and ask my husband if he fed my fishes? But his eyes was so concentrated on his cards that when I touch him he scream not aware of my presences. I ask him again if he fed my fishes, but then his father scream, "Queen, I got a queen." Then he turn right back into the game and ignore me.

 

I sat there by his side for another two hours and then decide to bring up another conversation. I called his name. No answer. I called his name again. No answer. I tap him on his shoulder. No answer, then I tap him on his lap real hard this time. Now he's mad.

 

He start saying things like I interruppted his game. So I told him sorry, and I am going to go to walmart for a bit. He saids, "Hold on, I want to go too."

 

I waited for another hour, then I told him, well, if you had let me go, then i would had been back even before you know it.

 

"Then he told his dad that he surrendered because he was goin to take me to walmart."

 

This news please me, of course I been waiting for hours. We headed to our room to grab our coat (according to what I thought) but then when we got there he turn on the computer and didn't even bother me.. I was like, "Babe, I thought you're taking me to Walmart?" and he was like, "I was just kidding, dont tell me that you believed me?"

 

I was so piss, I grab the keys and said, "well you could have told me earlier so I could went even before it was dark.. " But then he said, "GO then, I dare you. But dont think I'll let you back inside this house."

 

I was mad, but still, i said nicely to him, "well, I'll take sister in law with me and it wont be but just 30 minutes."

 

Then he got up and push me on the bed push my head onto the wall over and over and start saying that I was the worst wife ever.. i always bring him headaches and he thought that he was goin to get some peace from getting layoff, but it turn out he didn't. If I was a better wife, I would have told him that I wanted to go to Walmart right after school and I had to wait until after dinner time to ask him. That was when the game gets fun. And he pushed me on the floor and said that he hopes I lost my baby because then I would be nothing but a snagging worthless bitch who wont let him have any fun.

 

His father heard the noises and came into our room.. all he said was, "if you dont want to marry her then send her back to her family."

 

I'm still sad.

[whichwayisup]

Your husband is an abusive A-HOLE. He disrespects you, belittles you infront of his family. He hits and shoves you, screams at you..

 

In all honesty, I know you're hurting and are sad, but this guy is a piece of crap. You deserve better, though it seems he's incapable of acting like a loving husband.

 

Think about leaving him - Go to your family and let them help you through this..

[blair08]

That's not something that is going to get better hun, if anything it may get worse. I would try to seek some outside help and get out very soon! Think of what is right for your unborn child if nothing else. Staying with an abusive person is not the answer.

[hunkahunkaburninlove]

What nationality is your husbands family? It seems to be very patriarchal. He did this to you and your pregnant. You need to leave him. His family doesn't have a problem in him abusing you. You have a computer, you need to find a shelter or go stay with family. In phoenix there is a place call "sojurn" in souther califonia there is a place called "the sheep fold". There are good shelters in every major city. Ones that will help you through your birth and with your school. The only way your husband will change is if he gets away from his family. And then he needs to really have a heart transplant to be worth a damn. You are precious and what you are carrying is precious. Don't think for a moment that you don't deserve to be happy. Or that any of what your husband says it true. He has his head up his ass.

[Enema]

Of course, the only advice here is that you should leave him. You'd be stupid to stay.

 

But, I'm curious... lmk if i'm right:

 

1) You live with his parents?

2) How old are you?

3) Was he like this before you got married?

4) Did you get married because he knocked you up?

5) Was the pregnancy an accident?

[lkjh]

Can you go anywhere for awhile like your sister, mother, or father. Give him what he wants. Let him cook his own dinner.

[Zolar]

if you are pregnant, you can easily be killed by this kind of abuse. The stress alone and physical abuse can trigger a spontaneous abortion that can kill your unborn child and you, particularly if you are late term.

 

This happened to me a few months ago and I nearly died. I witnessed the police abusing my husband before they held me at gunpoint. I lost the baby instantly and I nearly lost my life. Your body is not the same when it is pregnant. Emotional shock and physical abuse can kill you and it is not a good experience to hold your dead baby in your hands while you, yourself are dying.

 

Please get out of there. Run.