LTD, Online dating, Shy guy - the most difficult relationship ever

[gwynieatpain]

I just don't know how else to put it. And I don't think it is coming across. Ugh. There has to be some other people here who can chime in with helpful suggestions.-?

 

You have been helping me a lot already. Thanks so much sweetheart ... it's me a bit stubborn haha.

 

How successful have you been in previous relationships? Have you had many dating-to-boyfriend experiences?

Because it doesn't seem like you have much experience in getting the guy you are going after.

 

I have been dating since 17. Now I'm 27. I went out from a 5 years relationship not long ago. It ended very very badly and that led me to the LS.

 

It sounds very arrogant but I really have NO experience to go after a guy. I just sit at the corner and guys would approach me. If I'm clicked then there you go ... of coz I make my full effort to keep them when I'm committed.

[Island Girl]

I make my full effort to keep them when I'm committed.

 

Ah well. I am glad my point seems to be getting through.

 

As to the quote above - this is it exactly.

 

You make your full effort when you are committed.

 

You don't have that kind of commitment yet so you need to scale back your effort a bit.

By that I mean don't respond right away all the time when he contacts you. And let him do more of the contacting as well so it balances out and you don't feel so dependent.

 

Make sure you look after yourself and do things, hobbies, friends, etc. Live your life. Then you can talk to him about the things that are going on - this will help to bridge the conversation to what he does when he is away for days on end.

[Lucky_One]

If he says he can't wait to meet you, then why hasn't he flown to where you are?