ohmy3 Posted January 30, 2009 Share Posted January 30, 2009 sister an i ( i am 3 yrs younger than her) sexual abused by male sitter an his friend as children for 3 or 4 yrs , i was 4 yrs when 1st occurred,THEN sister sexual abused me for 6-7 yrs afterward, i shared w/ my husband a few yrs . ago he is quite an NO what any emotional - his response was what u want me to do about it ? i am 34 , was 29 or so when i told him an he makes it about him i am lost, we have 2 kids 11-13 soon 2 be 12 -14 an i have been 100% not leave them w/ anyone an he still wonders why, my own mother is in (SOMEWHAT) denial of what went on in my life or older (only) sister an i am besides myself, in all honesty i feel the only true 1'S in my life is GOD & my kids. not that i have share all what has occurred in my younger life w/ them . however i feel so lost @ times! Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 30, 2009 Share Posted January 30, 2009 my own mother is in (SOMEWHAT) denial of what went on in my life or older (only) sister an i am besides myself, in all honesty i feel the only true 1'S in my life is GOD & my kids. not that i have share all what has occurred in my younger life w/ them . however i feel so lost @ times! I lost god when I got molested as a kid. Never found a safe haven with faith after that.... just checked out. Your husband obviously doesn't know how to deal with this information. I once told a guy I was dating about my trauma and he broke up with me 2 weeks later- he was too freaked out by the information. I can tell you that I worked with abused teens and kids for many years- I can also tell you sexual abuse is way more common than society is willing to talk about. You're so not alone. I think the best thing to do is to educate your kids about predators and how to be prepared. Have you sought therapy for this? It could help a lot. I'd highly recommened talking to someone. Just know that you are not alone in this- and talking about it is very therapeutic. Hugs, D Link to post Share on other sites
boldjack Posted January 30, 2009 Share Posted January 30, 2009 Seek help, counseling, pastor, nurse or therapist. It was not your fault, you did nothing wrong . With God's help and good therapy you can live a happy life. Link to post Share on other sites
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