I need a break, too many lies....

[gocubsgo]

well, i told my bf that i needed a break.

he has lied to me one too many times and i just can't trust him.

it sucks so bad because he is the first guy i have ever gone out with that

i actually had lots of things in common with.

we truly LIKE each other. (same sense of humor, get along great, have lots of fun together)

but he is a dishonest person and he's hurt me over and over.

 

big lies, little lies, doesn't matter to me, as long as it's a lie.....

 

i am the kind of person who just won't lie.

i've seen the kind of damage it does and it's just not worth it.

my problem is this:

i actually want it to work.

i have never been the kind of person who believed in "breaks" because i always

thought they ultimately lead to the "break up".

so i've never given anyone a second chance.

i have never been in this situation and i don't know what to do.

should i just let it go and cut my losses. (my usual instinct)

or should i really believe that he will realize the mistakes he's made and become

an honest person?

 

we have only been on a break for a week and he keeps calling me to tell me how much

he loves me and misses me. he just doesn't get it that being on a break means not talking to

each other! does this mean he doesn't respect my decision? (because i've put up with crap in the past?)

does he really miss me? does he really love me?

i know only he can answer that.

 

has anyone been in this type of situation where it actually worked out?

or am i a fool for putting up with it for over a year?

trust is so important to me and we don't have that (although he trusts me 100%, why wouldn't he!).

i feel lost, someone give me advice or a similar story to relate to.

thanks!

[hunter]

You state "trust is so important to me and we don't have that (although he trusts me 100%, why wouldn't he!).

 

I think that you have already made your decision.

 

When you have no trust, you have nothing.

 

Best of luck and go with your heart