Do i deserve a second chance after being such a Dumbass

[ME]

Ok........when this summer began, I had a girlfriend of about 8 months.......I was in love with her, and was very upset that she was going away to work for the summer.

 

During the 2 months she was away we broke up.......and i decided to move on, and started seeing this girl I had been friends with for some time.

 

This were great.......I could just sit with her for hours, not say a word.......and still feel like i learned something about her.......I was really happy.........I was thinking really good things.

 

Then my ex came home.......I was upset because she was really angry with me.....And I didn't really want that. so shortly after she came back......she called me, and asked if i could come see her. I went.....as I had some things to get from her.....and I kinda wanted to see her.

 

So we talked for a while......and as I went to leave she kissed me.....and all my feeling for her came rushing back to me.........I thought that i wanted to be with her......everything bad about our relationship was gone, and i could only think of the good.

 

So i drove home.......(very tired mind you.......I had to stop and sleep), and without thinking when i got home I called the other girl.....and told her what had happened. I told her that I had all these feelings for my ex, and that i thought i needed to be with her........she told me to do whatever I wanted because she refused to be an option for me anymore.

 

I woke up the next morning furious with myself......I knew I had made a m istake right away, and I knew that the person I wanted to be with was the one i had just broken things off with.

 

I tried to make things work with my ex.......but i was very unhappy, and didn't really work to hard.

 

one night about 3 weeks after all this I was out with some friends.....When the girl shows up.......We talked for a bit.....and she was still upset with me......and I told her that I still wanted to be with her......She said some things to me.....and I got upset and left.

 

A few hours( and a few drinks) Later I called her while i was walking home. She came and picked me up, and took me to her house where we talked for a while.....she said she missed me, ,and I told her I missed her, then we looked at some things that she showed me to make me feel guilty.

 

When she drove me home, we sat outside my house for two hours, just talking. We shared some pretty close moments.....and when i asked her If i could come see her later in the week she told me her schedual.

 

A few days later I talked to her on the internet......and asked if it was ok if i called(just to take things slow)......and since I was still "with" my ex......she said that I would know when I could call.

 

I am pretty sure I don't deserve a second chance with this girl.......the problem is that I care about her so much......I know I have to take things slow....and be patient....I just don't know how to go about starting up again......things were perfect the first time round, and I don't know what I will do if I get a second chancec and things aren't the same.........If anyone has any opinions....tips....personal experienceces to share with me.....all would be greatly apreciated.

 

Thank you.....and wish me good luck

[wiseluv34]

hi there, first off.... how old are you and your girlfriends? sounds like you all are young. let me know, and i can give you better advice.

but for now, i think you're just playing the field, sounds like those girls are being played by you. if i were your lady, and you dropped me like a hotdog when your ex called..then i would just kick you to the curb (but that's just me)

i think that you should never have taken your ex back, since you already had a new girl. you aren't protecting anyone's feelings here, so sounds like to me...you don't care for either girl. maybe you should just take time away from both girls, and see which one you miss the most, then you can better tell who it is you love. don't toy with their feelings, because it'll come back to ya. holla back, let me know how things are working out. wiseluv34

[PurpleAngel]

wiseluv34 : Maybe you should just take time away from both girls, and see which one you miss the most, then you can better tell who it is you love. don't toy with their feelings,

 

 

That sounds like some good advice… take a ‘TIME OUT’

 

I do have to ask a stupid question though, IF you know who you want to be with, why are you still with the girl that you don’t actually want anything with? I never got this, can people just not be alone, without a partner.

 

If you really want this other girl I would honestly break it off with your ex first… then take a little time just to breath and then if you STILL feel the same then go and tell her the truth about why you did all that you did and that you have now broken clean from your ex, this means not seeing or speaking to her anymore and really want to wipe the slate clean and start again. Do you diserve a second chance, mmm well I don’t know, I don’t think I would be wanting to JUMP at trusting you again, but if I saw that you did everything in your power to start a fresh well perhaps I would. BUT being with your ex would be a sure way to scrap you out of my life FOR GOOD! Don’t even have another, ‘lets take it slow’, conversations with her again until you are SINGLE!

 

Good Luck

~PurpleAngel~

[ME]

I am 21, and the girls are 21, and 22

 

I have already broken off with my ex, it was done before I posted.

 

I am willing to do anything to be with this girl......even if it means starting frfom the beggining and regaining her trust all over again.

 

I am not trying to play either one of these girls, and that has never been my intention.

 

Thank you for the input

[wiseluv34]

your welcome,

i just know that it's alright to date around, especially since you're still young. don't tie yourself down too early, b/c neither one of these girls may not be for you. who knows? the "right girl" for you may be later on, down the line. when i was 21, i didn't have time for one guy, but it did cause some afflictions, although

but, still.....i was too young to settle!!! i was in college, and didn't have time for a serious relationship. (although i did get caught!, just watch your back and be smart)..

my advice to you, is this...don't take life so serious at such a young age, play the field. you'll know when it's real love. holla!

[kandi13]

Ok well im in a situation i dont know how to cope with. I met this kid 2 summers ago. His name is Todd. I had so many mixed emotions for this 1 kid. He was my first kiss. He was my first real true boyfriend. I loved him with all my heart. We went out like 3 times but it never really worked out. I really did love him so much he was my first and only true love. Well I knew him 2 years now and after the first few months he moved away. Like 40 minutes away. We still talked and all we were sorta friends. We always use to fight cuz I had a problem with talkin bout him behind his back. He hated me so many times the first summer i knew him we were close this summer we didnt talk at all . Well now that school is back in were talking and I asked him back out. Lil did I know I would have a boyfriend in a few days.

 

Todd told me he would think about it. But how was I suppose to know a kid was gonna ask me out a few days later. Well now todd said its most likely a yes he still likes me. But now what am i suppose to do. Heres my story:

Well suring the last few days of this summer I didnt talk 2 Todd. But like 2 days before school started I met this kid named Ryan. To make a long story short. We went out broke up 4 times was a total jerk. Well i met his cousin a few days ago and we started talkin and he asked me out. Well the kid isnt all the great lookin at all but he makes me laugh and hes so good to me. Im just thinking now its my boyfriend verses my ex.

 

Todd didnt call me in a few days I dont know why. Maybe hes mad at me. He doesnt know i said yes to another kid. He'd be really mad. I cant let todd go though i still love him very much. But I cant hurt brad either ( thats my boyfriend) hes such a sweet heart to me. i wish i can have both but I cant. I need some advice on what to do. Like i said Im not and I cant let either of them go I thought bout it a long time already and I just cant make a decision...who should I pick?? Please dont just put a short reply in like pick todd or vise versa thank u sooo much.....

[wiseluv34]

well, don't get upset with my advice, b/c people don't have similiar opinions.

but i think you need to tell both of your boyfriends your situation. they will find out eventually, and you will lose BOTH of them, and your dignity at that. because these 2 boys will tell everyone else, and everyone will believe that you are a 2 timer (which it sounds that you are, just by your story, i don't know).

all i can say, (and take this to heart)...DON'T PLAY 2 PEOPLE AT ONCE, B/C SOMEONE WILL RETURN TO YOU...THE FAVOUR. IN OTHER WORDS, WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. i know, b/c it happened to me. i played 2 men, and when i found out which one it was that i really loved, it was a little too late. he had already started having a relationship with another girl. and i ended up alone, and needlessly HURT.

also, noone can love 2 people at once, so you should decide which guy you want to date, and which one you want only as a friend. good luck and keep me posted!

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