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[cat]

How can I get over my jealousy of other people (male and female friends) talking to my fiance? I'm really getting carried away with my jealousy? Help me please.

[Jesaco]

How can I get over my jealousy of other people (male and female friends) talking to my fiance? I'm really getting carried away with my jealousy? Help me please.

Hi cat,

 

You need to feel better about yourself. Believe that you are a person who is worth being loved. And know that you can't control how other people think. Or how they feel about you. You don't have a hold on your fiance. He loves you because of his own feelings about you. The two of you will meet many people in your life, and probably create many friendships. And our whole lives depend on the interactions we have with all the people in our lives.

 

Think about how it makes you feel when other men look at you. Do you feel ashamed? Not likely. Being noticed by other people gives us a good feeling. Think about how good it feels when someone smiles at you. And how it feels when someones gives you attention. These are things that make each and every one of us feel good.

 

And your husband is someone you can turn to if you feel like you need a little more attention. He's someone who'll be there to comfort you when you're down. And he's someone to share all the joys of life with. When he's happy, you'll be happy, and when he's down, you'll feel down.

 

Also, just because of the fact that your fiance is male, he enjoys looking at women. Women are nice to look at. And talking to them boosts his ego a great deal. So let him feel good about himself, because he'll be able to love you that much more. You are the one he's intimate with, and you're the one he'll open his feelings up to.

 

Congratulations on you're engagement and best wishes to you,

 

Jesaco

[Tony T]

Admire you fiance for the kind of person he is and the friends he has. This shows that he is a decent guy who enjoys people and is well thought-of.

 

If you try to separate him from his friends, the value of which cannot be overstated in life, you will lose his respect and his love for you will diminish.

 

Get to know his friends and be a part of the interaction. Make them your friends, too, if you can or have the desire.

 

If you think a people person is going to drop his entire world to be at your beck and call, you are dead wrong. And I respect him for honoring his friendships.

 

Be very proud of the great guy you've got. I hope you aren't ignoring your own friends or driving them away with your obsession over your guy. Spend more time with his friends, your own friends...AND TAKE TIME TO MAKE EVEN MORE FRIENDS FOR YOURSELF.

 

They aren't the same as a romantic involvement, but true friends are a treasure that outlasts most romantic endeavors.

 

If you are jealous of your guy's friends, you must be very insecure about them. If you are afaid they are going to take him away from you, you can bet they will unless you change your view on friendship.