Online relationship

[Baxter]

Hello everyone, first post here. I met a girl online through a friend about a month or so ago. At first we began as just friends but then as time carried on we discovered we had a lot in common. I began looking forward to logging on and seeing if she was online every day, I began to think about her non stop. We both play WoW and we have been questing and doing instances together a lot recently. I've been helping her a lot in it

 

We confessed our feelings to each other about 2 weeks ago. We both admitted we were very attracted to each other, and she said I make her happy like no other guy has before. I care really deeply for her too, and just want to be with her. Lately we have been unseperable, and talking on the phone non stop. I think shes an amazing girl, I love her personality and her voice, and she is extremely pretty.

 

I would like to meet her and I think I will be going to meet her in about a week or so. Unfortunatly I don't have my license as i just turned 18, and she lives in another state. I would have to catch a train to her. What I am worried about is that despite our attraction and "love" for each other it is still after all only an internet relationship. I have viewed e-relationships with contempt my whole life, having never experienced one... but this girl is different. I guess im just looking for advice from people who've met others over the internet. How did you handle meeting in real life? I just don't want to dissapoint her, I hope i didnt build any images on the net of myself that aren't really accurate.

 

My friends have told me that I am crazy for wanting to meet someone from the internet... they keep saying i should meet someone IRL...and I'm not sure what to do. Should I go and visit her? I guess also part of my attraction to and wanting to meet her stems from the fact that ive never had a girl say she loved me... until this girl just now.

 

Thanks for any advice.

[gwynieatpain]

Go or you will regret

[Frankasy]

Well isn't it possible for both of you to meet in a mutual place, I mean one where you both are able to make it by foot instead of catching a train. If the train thing doesn't disturb you, than go for it. What have you got to lose? If it doesn't work out, big deal, you'll find someone else. Go for it.

[Ms. Red]

Go for it. Knowing someone on-line even if you talk on the phone, swap pics or even see each other on vid cam is different than seeing them in person. I have a good friend who I feel is currently my best friend whom I met on-line. We were IM'ing every day & talking on the phone occasionally. Well, after 11 months of this, he drove out here 2500 miles to visit me & the vision I had of him even though I'd seen him in vid & pics was different from what I expected. Not bad at all, just different.

 

Yeah, it may make you a little nervous at first, but if you click "in person" then it will be worth it. I wasn't nervous in the least when my friend arrived. I couldn't wait to look at him in person & grab him & squeeze him. Of course there was no romance between us at all. We just had a great friend connection. I may have been nervous if there was romance involved.

 

Go for it & up-date us on how it goes!

[KikiW]

I met my guy through WoW too!

 

I'm from the Northeast and he's from the South, we have to fly to see each other. Take my advice and GO FOR IT. You will never know otherwise. Even if it doesn't work out in the end, you took the chance to have something great!

 

We've got the opportunity to see each other in about 3 weeks, which will be our third long weekend together since last October. We're hoping he can take off work, will find out in the next day or so. We are so excited to see each other again.

 

I was terribly nervous to meet him in person. I was so scared that the spark wouldn't be there in real life, or that we would discover we just didn't like each other. TOTALLY THE OPPOSITE! Now we are working really hard to get it so he can move up to be with me.

 

Just go for it and have a great time!!!

[Geishawhelk]

Try to look at it as an expectation of going to meet a good friend, not exchange blood, body fluids and be joined at the hip until the day you croak.

 

If it gets better and better, all to the good.

If not, at least you've met her in the flesh and you have a good friend.

[Baxter]

Thanks for the responses guys! It's very encouraging to see people are ok with it... cause my friends werent they think I am weird for wanting to meet her. I'll be going to see her either next week or week after. I'm just reallly scared her family wont like me or something, even though she said they were ok with me coming. She also said i can share her bed .

 

KikiW just wondering, how long did you and your man talk on WoW before you met up in real life?

[KikiW]

Just some advice - if I understand it, she is still living with her family? Be a gentleman and sleep on the couch. Show this girl's family that you are respectful. And throwing in an "Is there anything I can help with?" while serving food or cleaning up - her family will be impressed

 

I first met my guy last January/February when he re-joined the guild, but it was a matter of circumstance that I hopped into a Vent channel with just him and a friend last May or so. We started talking more frequently almost immediately, and things got very serious by July. Early October was the first time we met in person.

 

PS: At first *I* thought it was weird too. But in the end, this world is weird, times are weird, everything is weird. The internet makes the world much smaller, and I truly believe that there will be a huge increase in couples who meet online. As long as you have good communication, anything is possible

[Lucky_One]

Baxter, if I were you, I would NOT share her bed. If you are worried about her family liking you, then appearing from another state to sleep with their daughter when they don't know you from Adam's housecat is one surefire way to get them to dislike you.

 

And if they think it is ok, and welcome you into their D's bedroom? That is weirdness of another sort!

[Els]

Wait, wait.

 

You're meeting in her house for a first meeting? And she offered you to share her BED???

 

Well hey, I never thought myself sexist, but if you're a girl, I'd seriously ask you if you are ****ing stupid.

 

Since you're a guy, I can't quite see how anyone would benefit from conning you in such a manner, except maybe to get a laugh out of you, but if you actually want to start this off on a good foot, meet in a public place, AWAY from the family. Although my mind is already reeling with skepticism about this girl of yours, NOT because you met her online, but because she OFFERED TO SHARE HER BED WITH A GUY SHE'S NEVER MET ON THE FIRST MEETING. With her parents around!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Good god.

[Ms. Red]

And if they think it is ok, and welcome you into their D's bedroom? That is weirdness of another sort!

 

I was thinking the same thing.

 

 

Wait, wait.

 

You're meeting in her house for a first meeting? And she offered you to share her BED???

 

Well hey, I never thought myself sexist, but if you're a girl, I'd seriously ask you if you are ****ing stupid.

 

Since you're a guy, I can't quite see how anyone would benefit from conning you in such a manner, except maybe to get a laugh out of you, but if you actually want to start this off on a good foot, meet in a public place, AWAY from the family. Although my mind is already reeling with skepticism about this girl of yours, NOT because you met her online, but because she OFFERED TO SHARE HER BED WITH A GUY SHE'S NEVER MET ON THE FIRST MEETING. With her parents around!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Good god.

 

Makes one wonder what kinda person she really is. And I'm thinking if her parents really said they didn't mind, that must be a regular thing in that household. That's more to worry about than if you will get along in person.