Touche Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 Those aren't faults, those are annoying habits/things that bug you. FAULTS are things like overreacting, bad temper, moodiness, ect. Those are the issues that make or break a relationship, not snoring. You are still in the honeymoon stage, he hasn't gotten a chance to show you his faults yet. (which isn't bad, the honeymoon stage is a great part of the relationship) This is true. Link to post Share on other sites
jam1982 Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 This is true. Yeah, I think if you can't complain/biatch to someone about your SO yet, you are still in the HP. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 Yeah, I think if you can't complain/biatch to someone about your SO yet, you are still in the HP. I do agree with you but that said, I'm with my H 14 years now and have very little to complain/biatch about myself. I mean I have my minor little gripes but nothing major at all. But yeah, I see your point and agree with you. Link to post Share on other sites
jam1982 Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 I do agree with you but that said, I'm with my H 14 years now and have very little to complain/biatch about myself. I mean I have my minor little gripes but nothing major at all. But yeah, I see your point and agree with you. That's great! Yeah, it's problematic when you have MAJOR things to complain about. Everyone I think has some minor things, nobody is perfect. Like my GF is kind of clumsy and tends to accidently bang her elbow on something and smack her leg into something and always cries out like she is dying. (she's not, total overreacter) so I just deal by saying "Do you have to go to the hospital babe?" Usually the answer is no and we are done. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 That's great! Yeah, it's problematic when you have MAJOR things to complain about. Everyone I think has some minor things, nobody is perfect. Like my GF is kind of clumsy and tends to accidently bang her elbow on something and smack her leg into something and always cries out like she is dying. (she's not, total overreacter) so I just deal by saying "Do you have to go to the hospital babe?" Usually the answer is no and we are done. lol That's funny! Now, if that spills over into her overreacting in other more serious situations, then it's not so funny though. Ugh, my ex was an overreacter (sp?) I mean EVERYTHING was such a damn big deal with him. I can't stand high strung people. I needed someone way more laid back. Thank goodness my H is very even-tempered and laid back for the most part. Hope your g/f doesn't over react in other areas of her life. And I bet I know why she's that way...I'm taking a stab at it here..she's either the youngest in her family or an only child, right? Link to post Share on other sites
jam1982 Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 That's funny! Now, if that spills over into her overreacting in other more serious situations, then it's not so funny though. Ugh, my ex was an overreacter (sp?) I mean EVERYTHING was such a damn big deal with him. I can't stand high strung people. I needed someone way more laid back. Thank goodness my H is very even-tempered and laid back for the most part. Hope your g/f doesn't over react in other areas of her life. And I bet I know why she's that way...I'm taking a stab at it here..she's either the youngest in her family or an only child, right? No, it's usually not too bad. She overreacts mostly to little things, bad news, ect. She just kind of "exaggerates" her feelings you might say. Actually she is the oldest, and has a younger sister. They are 4 years apart so I think she got all the attention and then when her sister came along she didn't get as much. So I think she "overreacted" to situations in order to get some attention back that she lost. She is def. not laid back, but it's not TOO bad. I am more of a laid back type of guy so it's annoying sometimes. I love her though and she is a wonderful woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 Oh ok. Yep, sounds like maybe she got used to being that way to get attention. Sounds like you handle it well though. It doesn't seem like she's too much of a drama queen. That's good. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Those aren't faults, those are annoying habits/things that bug you. FAULTS are things like overreacting, bad temper, moodiness, ect. Those are the issues that make or break a relationship, not snoring. You are still in the honeymoon stage, he hasn't gotten a chance to show you his faults yet. (which isn't bad, the honeymoon stage is a great part of the relationship) This is so profound. Of course the beginning is going to be bliss, hours of conversations, a feeling that you have known this person forever. But eventually , ( as we humans are NOT perfect ) things will emerge. Some will be negotiable, some will be put on the back burner and then we have the deal breakers. Only time will tell if he has any DB's you can't get beyond. Give this 6 months to a year of real quality time spent and yes another reader had it correct." Its not the dissagreements but HOW you handle them. "Many couples never get past the disagreement stage. And not how you handle them NOW.... But how you handle them when the butterflys and the bliss has settled down. Right now you CHOOSE to handle them in a non conflict way because beginning relationships avoid conflicts because everything feels so good. Link to post Share on other sites
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