SoundTribe Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 I am an 18 year old male enrolled in college. I seem to have a problem and that is that I can't make friends with girls. I don't know what the problem is exactly but I just can't seem to connect with any. I am an athlete and I have more male friends than I can count in the intramural sports community and my fraternity but when it comes to female friends I have ZERO. I have only had one true female friend in my life and she ended up becoming my high school sweetheart. We went out for 2 years then broke up our first semester since we went to different colleges. So now I am without any female friends. I have absolutely no idea how to interact with girls and anytime I do, I get nervous and start to feel awkward. Most guys I play sports with and my fraternity brothers describe me as cocky but I can't seem to translate this trait into my conversations with girls. I have a sinking feeling that girls can tell when you don't interact with other girls very often and this makes them uncomfortable. I don't even care about having a girlfriend. I just want at least one close female friend. Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
gopher Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 Next time you interact with a female, try asking questions about school since you have that in common and then truly listen to what they say. Show an interest in them as a person and you will create female friendships. Link to post Share on other sites
doomed Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 And read the "how do I meet new people" thread - much the same discussion is going on there... Just walk up to ANY woman with NO expectations and strike up a conversation about anything. At a bookstore ? Talk about the book she's looking ? No book in hand ? Talk about the genre of the isle she's standing in ? At a bustop ? Talk about the state of public transportation in the city. Anything at all. Practice practice practice! Look for segues to other topics: Places they'd like to see, their goals in life, their hobbies, their studies, whatever ... Talking to girls is like any other skill. doomed Link to post Share on other sites
nana yaw II Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 well, young women often base male friendships on things other than shared interests, or whether they think a guy is nice or not. You say you're athletic, so use that to get female friendships. IMO, male friendships in young women is about a few things: - Looks - coolness - atheltic ability - confidence - charisma ever wondered why in high school, geeks don't get many female friends. This is why... Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 It's ironic how most other people on this board write posts about slipping into the dreaded friends zone with a girl and want to escape, but this guy wants the opposite. As long as you take interest in women and don't come of creepy or don't make it obvious you're trying to get into their pants, you'll be fine. Since you're still young, a great way of making and meeting female friends is at parties. Interact as much with the girls as you do with the guys at the parties...remember I said girls not girl, interacting with just one will make you come off needy. Link to post Share on other sites
winsmith-84 Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 It's ironic how most other people on this board write posts about slipping into the dreaded friends zone with a girl and want to escape, but this guy wants the opposite. As long as you take interest in women and don't come of creepy or don't make it obvious you're trying to get into their pants, you'll be fine. Since you're still young, a great way of making and meeting female friends is at parties. Interact as much with the girls as you do with the guys at the parties...remember I said girls not girl, interacting with just one will make you come off needy. Yeah, I'm actually trying to fix this problem too and make more female friends. Keep the tips coming, haha Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 It's ironic how most other people on this board write posts about slipping into the dreaded friends zone with a girl and want to escape, but this guy wants the opposite. As long as you take interest in women and don't come of creepy or don't make it obvious you're trying to get into their pants, you'll be fine. Since you're still young, a great way of making and meeting female friends is at parties. Interact as much with the girls as you do with the guys at the parties...remember I said girls not girl, interacting with just one will make you come off needy. Is it ironic? He thinks that if he makes friends with girls it will lead to a gf like it did the one time in the past. To the OP have you even been inviting girls to the parties your frat throws? if you invite a girl to a good party she'll look for you when she gets there... then just try to kiss them... your entire friend aproach isn't the greatest... if you really just want a friend try making friends with a bigger girl. Remember if ur in school u can always use the old will you help me study line! come back and tell us what you've actualy tried cause it sounds like your not even being rejected Link to post Share on other sites
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