sumdude Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 It's been a little while since I've posted much so I thought I would give an update. A couple of weeks ago I had a strange day. I woke up for work, my ex wife and the divorce were heavy on my mind for the first time in ages. I was also thinking about my parents, I guess in general I was grieving my ex-life for a minute there. Felt sorrow etc.. I couldn't understand why it was hitting me that day,.. then it came to me. It was the two year anniversary of the day my ex wife suddenly left me. I checked by finding my first post about it. Weird how the mind works eh? Truth is I'm doing pretty darn well all things considered. Having lost my mom, dad, uncle and aunt as well as the divorce in the last three years has put me through some tests and I'm still standing.. even thriving in some ways. I bought new skis recently and have gone three times so far this winter. I'm playing in a couple bands, have a pretty busy social life. Work has improved greatly since my former manager was let go. I finally received an overdue promotion. I've made a few new friends, a couple of them women. But no romantic involvement yet. Subconsciously I think I've been avoiding getting tangled up in anything so far. Been too busy working on myself, my life and getting through these tough times. Sometimes I wonder if I've become relationship agnostic.. lol but I figure all in due time. Things will happen when they should. We still need to get the ball rolling on dad's estate and legal matters. I really miss him and my mother. It's one of those things y'know? Given a choice both of my parents would have been around for me forever, whereas my ex wife decided she didn't want to be. So tell me what love is again? That's what it is and it's so true that you don't want to give that to someone who won't return it. The life I used to live is mostly gone now. When I think about being married it's like another lifetime ago. I can barely remember what it was like. My mind has finally calmed down, if I think of my ex or see her picture it doesn't really affect me anymore other than.. what a damn shame. When I found out from her she was remarried now I just think.. well good luck with that.. she's going to need it. So you see... no matter what happens in life if you tackle it head on, allow yourself to go through and get through the pain. Keep telling yourself you're OK and that people come and go out of your life.. whether by their own choice or not. Link to post Share on other sites
pparrott Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 Thank you SO MUCH ;)for sharing your story! Shows there's hope for all of us. And - GOOD FOR YOU! you should be very proud of yourself right now!! Link to post Share on other sites
edgeof27 Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 Dude, yes thanks for sharing, looks like things are working out ok for you, stay positive, keep moving forward, don't look back, g. Link to post Share on other sites
PWSX3 Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Sumdude, it is good to hear from you again.....Glad to hear things are going well for you, I know you had a couple of rough years there. It is hard to listen to those that have been there done that, went thru the pain but it is good to know there is life after........ Don't be a stranger. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 You might be the "SumDude" but your not the "Same" dude! Life is about prepetual self-improvement!" "Keep on "keeping on!" Keep growing! Keep learning! Keep getting better! Give Life your best! Live Life to its top! Link to post Share on other sites
skinman Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Sumdude, glad to hear that all is well with you and life is looking up... You have given me so much hope that things indeed will be better when this nightmare is over... I wish you well Friend and continued success in life... Skin... Link to post Share on other sites
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