RogueAC Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 My ex’s birthday is coming up. I have been thinking about if I should call him or text him to say happy birthday. (What is it with me and birthdays?) I don’t think the contact will set me back and I don’t have expectations for the call. What do you guys think? Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 I say no. I have done the "happy birthday" stuff with an ex for years and really, there is no point to it other than making yourself feel good for showing you care/are nice...but really, do you need that in your life? Do you need him to think "that was nice of her" I am done with doing that with my ex because I do not really care anymore about getting some brownie point in her mind concerning me. That's just my opinion though and I am a believer of being done totally with exes based on my experience trying to otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
openbook08 Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 I say no. I have done the "happy birthday" stuff with an ex for years and really, there is no point to it other than making yourself feel good for showing you care/are nice...but really, do you need that in your life? Do you need him to think "that was nice of her" I am done with doing that with my ex because I do not really care anymore about getting some brownie point in her mind concerning me. That's just my opinion though and I am a believer of being done totally with exes based on my experience trying to otherwise. amen. agree. dont bother Link to post Share on other sites
Ramrod Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 No, let it go, you'll thank yourself for NOT doing it later. Link to post Share on other sites
madgun68 Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 My ex’s birthday is coming up. I have been thinking about if I should call him or text him to say happy birthday. (What is it with me and birthdays?) I don’t think the contact will set me back and I don’t have expectations for the call. What do you guys think?Only if the two of you are friends (not to be confused with "friendly") and are speaking to one another currently. If not then no.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RogueAC Posted February 6, 2009 Author Share Posted February 6, 2009 Thanks for responses. I’ve given it some thought too and I won’t contact him on his birthday. We are “friendly” but not friends and it has been several months NC. NC is so difficult for me around special events – like birthdays and holidays. I was able to make it through all of the winter holidays and this is just one more thing. One more day. It is just so hard for me to pretend like the day means nothing. It hurts because I don’t want to care anymore but I still do. Link to post Share on other sites
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