Are our hearts really connected? or is it just a fantasy...

[Trinibeauty]

i met this guy at a wedding two years ago we parted ways then but i knew there was some type of chemistry but due to the fact that we were both taking then i didnt bother to even try, recently we have found eachother, mind me he lives in the Netherlands and i am in Jersey and lately talking to him seems sooo right, i mean he is about two years younger than i am but i no longer care about that, i am afraid to start something so wonderful with him for it to end, I mean this guy makes my blood heat up just by talking to me im not sure what i feel, it could be infactuation since we are now getting to actually know eachother but i am afraid to tell him exactly how i feel, im sure he probably feels the same way, we are both christians and he seems to help me find a true meaning to purity, what should i do? im not sure if any if this made sense. but please tell me your thoughts:love:

[Geishawhelk]

First, break up your paragraphs and use punctuation.

It makes it much easier to read, and doesn't sound as if you're trying to cram several sentences into one breath....

 

Secondly, he's on the other side of the world.

I don't know when you two guys feel it would be possible to meet up again, but the fact that he lives so far away, and you hardly know each other suggests to me that unless you can make plans to be together, this doesn't look as if it would evolve into anything meaningful.

 

Continue communicating, by all means, but I don't know how wise it would be to build your hopes up.

[Trinibeauty]

ha ha yea i was in a rush while writing this, But thanks though

[Island Girl]

So you met in person two years ago and just recently started talking again?

 

Well like any relationship you should just allow them to develop. But certainly you can talk about aspirations and hopes you each have for the future (for your own lives).

If you find you have those things in common then the possibility could be explored about one of you moving to the other's country.

 

Are you willing to be the one that moves? Or are you only hopeful for this relationship if he moves to you?

[Trinibeauty]

yuh see, my only problem is kinda the laguage barrier. He is Bi-lingual, which is Dutch and English, and of course the main language where he lives is Dutch and I on the other hand only know english, so that may be a biiiig adjustment for me, even though he did say he will be my translator, i know he is trying to be cute and helpful but im not sure if he will be able to be around me 24/7.

But we are trying to take things slooooow by getting to know eachother more and more each day and we do talk about the possible future we can have so i guess time will just tell.

[Geishawhelk]

The Dutch have English as a second language and speak it extremely well. Even young children are very good at it, you'd be astonished....

 

I used to work on a campsite in France, and I speak English, French and Italian, all fluently, but no Dutch. I need not have worried.

The Dutch even speak better English at times than the English do.....

[TMichaels]

yuh see, my only problem is kinda the laguage barrier. He is Bi-lingual, which is Dutch and English, and of course the main language where he lives is Dutch and I on the other hand only know english, so that may be a biiiig adjustment for me, even though he did say he will be my translator, i know he is trying to be cute and helpful but im not sure if he will be able to be around me 24/7.

But we are trying to take things slooooow by getting to know eachother more and more each day and we do talk about the possible future we can have so i guess time will just tell.

 

Trinibeauty,

 

Don't worry so much about the language problem. In most Dutch schools children learn English starting at the primary school level. Much of the TV shows are American and/or English with subtitles, and one of the reasons often given for how well the Dutch speak English is the fact that they are so often subjected to hearing the language via the media, music, movies, etc. which for all practical purposes has become the "unofficial" (second ) language there.

 

There's also awareness in Holland that English is the "language of commerce" and the rest of the world is unlikely to learn Dutch, so learning English is a necessity. If you've ever been to Amsterdam or one of the larger cities (like Leiden, where there is a major university), English is freely and well-spoken -- so much so, the Dutch can put your own English skills to shame!

 

Having said all that, the chance English will be spoken or understood (in Holland, and elsewhere in the world) is quite often influenced by age and geography: Younger people are more apt to be fluent and English is more often prevalent in larger, more cosmopolitan areas. So unless you'd be living in a very rural area, or solely around elderly folks, I wouldn't worry at you lack of Dutch, at all.

 

TBH, it sounds as though your relationship has a ways to go before you need to worry about not being able to communicate with the natives, anyway -- IOW, you may be putting the cart a bit before the horse, here.

 

However, there's nothing preventing you from learning a bit of the language on your own, if for no other reason than to be able to whisper sweet nothings into your friend's ear...

 

There are numerous study-at-home programs (Google things like Pimsleur or Berlitz), and there's even an on-line program you might consider checking out.

 

You're also fortunate that in this day and age it's possible to listen and watch to radio/TV programs from all over the world via the internet. On the home page of the site mentioned above there are links to Dutch radio stations and newspapers. Both would enable you to get a better sense of the language and the culture, and probably help you gain more awareness and confidence as well.

 

Hope this may be of some help to you.

 

Good luck, and all the best!

TMichaels

[Trinibeauty]

ha ha thanks sooo much guys, i have been trying to learn a little of the Dutch language these days, and yes he is definitely impressed ha, but i feel as though i was getting overly excited about the situation though so im not sure.

 

He told me that he doesnt want to get overly carried away and jump into something with me and easily mess things up, We have agreed on waiting a while before going that route, I mean we still feel strongly about eachother but it is already getting difficult bottleling up all these emotional and physical feelings toward him.

 

We still speak to eachother on a daily basis...but seeing him on the web adds to the conversations maybe i should invest in one too....Ill keep you guys updated ha.