LovieDove24 Posted February 6, 2009 Share Posted February 6, 2009 I met a guy online over four months ago. We took things very slow from the start...emailed for over a month before meeting up and making sure not to get too physical too soon. We both have children and I felt like we were both on the same page about wanting a mature relationship. It honestly felt like my first "adult" relationship. Lord knows what took me 24 years to get here but thats another thread for another time! The only downfall I can say is that we were both noticably emotionally guarded about the "serious" stuff. I figured this was a combination of the newness of the relationship and partly to do with our emotional backgrounds: he was abandoned by his father and I grew up in an alcoholic household. Aka, we are both slow to trust. Anyways, I was slowly letting my guard down with him. On Monday of this week I expressed my discomfort with our plans always being "up in the air" and not solidified. I wanted to know if we were going to hang out this Wednesday night, he said he didn't know if he'd have his son or not. I explained that I'm not the type of girl to wait around on a maybe so I'd like to know now. His response was "If you need to know now then I'm just going to say, yes I'm having my son over that night." I said thats fine, all I wanted to know. There was more to the conversation but it was decided that I am the type who enjoys an itinerary where he prefers to fly by the seat of his pants. Fine, at least we are aware now. The reason I am even mentioning this whole conversation is because I believe it may have somthing to do with him not calling. He was noticably defensive throughout the whole thing...Like I was challenging him or something (which I wasn't) and trying to invade his space (which I was not). Before we hung up he said, "Well I'll still call you on Wednesday afternoon and let you know." Did I ever get that call? NO. Its now Thursday evening and nothing. I don't know if this is something I can get over. It seems the minute I brought up a serious topic he got uneasy and is becoming disrespectful. Any insights please? Link to post Share on other sites
gopher Posted February 6, 2009 Share Posted February 6, 2009 Uh why not call him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LovieDove24 Posted February 6, 2009 Author Share Posted February 6, 2009 Maybe I should have mentioned this is the third time now he has done this to me. Said he was gonna call a certain day/time and didn't. To be honest this screams disrespect in my book...or at the very least a serious lack of caring for my feelings Why should I call him? If I do it's like I'm excusing this behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LovieDove24 Posted February 6, 2009 Author Share Posted February 6, 2009 I didn't mean to post this in the In Search of Forum...anyone know how to move it? Link to post Share on other sites
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