wierdmunky Posted February 6, 2009 Share Posted February 6, 2009 She is needy sometimes, whiney, Needs to be in control all the time, Still needs her kids to "obey", Will pull some mom rule when ever one of us has a thought or idea different to what we are brought up with, and stating our opinions on these facts are a sign to her that we are disobedient and need to change our lives, and so on. There is no room for me to be who I am, I can't make a stand against her ideas even if i disagree in the most perfect, non threatening way without her thinking, with some seed planted in her head that I completely disrespect her. I feel like the only way she accepts love is for me to kiss her feet. I can't stand that there is no middle ground here. Were not kids anymore, and would like to know where she comes across thinking that she is the queen all the time. I have to look like agree all the time, and do everything she asks, or I get dismissed as the outcast, and she feels free to do whatever mom blackmailing she deems necessary. As she would say, "you would rather suffer, than obey" Link to post Share on other sites
Dumbledore Posted February 6, 2009 Share Posted February 6, 2009 But you love her anyway. That's beautiful. I hope this isn't really the last one. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted February 6, 2009 Share Posted February 6, 2009 She is needy sometimes, whiney, Needs to be in control all the time, Still needs her kids to "obey", Will pull some mom rule when ever one of us has a thought or idea different to what we are brought up with, and stating our opinions on these facts are a sign to her that we are disobedient and need to change our lives, and so on. There is no room for me to be who I am, I can't make a stand against her ideas even if i disagree in the most perfect, non threatening way without her thinking, with some seed planted in her head that I completely disrespect her. I feel like the only way she accepts love is for me to kiss her feet. I can't stand that there is no middle ground here. Were not kids anymore, and would like to know where she comes across thinking that she is the queen all the time. I have to look like agree all the time, and do everything she asks, or I get dismissed as the outcast, and she feels free to do whatever mom blackmailing she deems necessary. As she would say, "you would rather suffer, than obey" My kids tell me that I think I am infallible. They tell me that I am old fashioned, controlling and too strict.. especially as this is 'no longer the 80s'. They laugh at me because they think I am ditzy.. well I am quite ditzy really. Your home will be better than your mothers home - never forget that.. Its how it is for everyone. (Although it does sound as though your mother is rather hardcore) I dont think it will be the last time that she does your head in. As I will still get complaints from my lot even though they have GREAT lives! What matters is what we do despite the differences we encounter. Regards, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 6, 2009 Share Posted February 6, 2009 Do you live at home still? If so, maye think about moving? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wierdmunky Posted February 8, 2009 Author Share Posted February 8, 2009 But you love her anyway. That's beautiful. I hope this isn't really the last one. Yes, I'm bound by her enabling I only hope I don't have too much more to complain about because my brain is running out of room. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wierdmunky Posted February 8, 2009 Author Share Posted February 8, 2009 Do you live at home still? If so, maye think about moving? I do think about it. I think I am just scared that I won't make it, or that I wont have the energy to keep up. I lost my job some months back, and I like the time I have to study for school, I just don't know if I could make money to support myself. sad Link to post Share on other sites
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