AFTER 4 YEARS my ex cheated on me and left. now she's back into the picture.

[ADUN]

Hi,

 

My GF and I were together for the last 4 years (3 1/2 of which we lived together). She was lovely nice and quite. Never had friends exepct the ones I introduced her to. Although I never cheated on her or had the thought of it, she always checked my stuff to make sure I don't.

 

A month and 1/2 ago, I found out that she goes out with her doctor. When I faced her with the news, she just didn't care and left. I cried, lost appetite and everything else. I felt I was sold for a cheap price me who never cheated on her.

 

I kept asking her to come back for 15 days but she kept telling me to go screw and moved in with him (but kept our apt keys).

 

I swore that I won't take it anymore, so I travelled a lot, met new people and I m dating a wonderful girl.

 

Once she came back to my place (dont know the reason); when she found female clothes in our apt, she freaked out, messed the apt and totally moved out. Never heard from her since then and myself never tried to contact her. 5 weeks later, she calls my friends asking them about me, what I do, if I m happy or not, and how does my new gf looks like? She calls them so many times that themselves got sick of it. She also asks them if I talk about her. Nonetheless, she insists that she s happy in her new relationship. My friends adviced her to let it go since she's happy but she just keep asking over and over...

 

Could anybody tell me why she's acting like this, why does she wanna know what I do? And what does she want?

 

Thanks

[VASH THE STAMPEDE]

i think some women are evil,and for their pleasure try to keep tabs on their exes,to see how hurt they are even though they feel fine they need to keep looking over your situation to see if your screwing up.

[VASH THE STAMPEDE]

also you did a good thing moving on it was ultimately wrong for her to have done what she did.she might also be feeling remorse

[ADUN]

Thanks for your reply I forgot to mention that when she was taking her stuff to leave we had a talk; and she said that she loves me and she'd never love anybody the way she did for me I m her first and last true unconditional love. She added that she doesn't believe that she'd find anybody like me... etc then she hugged me and kissed me like a true lover. Last she said, but I have to go with him. That confused the **** out of me!!! Please note we just graduated from college (both of us are 25) and this Dr. is 11 years older than her.

[NEONINK]

Her loss Mate. Sounds like you are moving on. I know you've heard the saying, 'What goes around, comes around' and the verse 'reap what you sow'. Her day will come, but you don't need to worry yourself with that.

 

Just continue living honestly and enjoy the new people!

[amerikajin]

Next time she opens her mouth to say something to you, respond by saying "Thank you."

 

"Thank you for showing me what a complete loon you are (she is) BEFORE we got married and had kids."

 

And that's pretty much all you need to say.

 

Dude, there's a song I listened to by Chicago the other night "If she would have been faithful". Great song. Talks about this thing, about this chick who cheats on her man and then the man has a happier life without her. A blessing in disguise.

 

Why do women act this way?

 

Because some women (people) are just selfish, selfish, selfish. Me first, you last. Let her inflict misery on this lover of hers - soon the doc will realized he's getting fleeced. Meanwhile, be glad that you're done with this dysfuncitional nutjob.