sdc Posted February 7, 2009 Share Posted February 7, 2009 I've re-written this post so many times!!! But all I want to say is.... If Love between two people is real.... it will make itself be real... everyday of your life. No marriage certificate or vows or family or community pressure can alter the fact that Love will find a way. It will hurt, it will cause the most devastating pain to all involved...but if it's Love... then it will find a way. And Love will make it so that the Love can endure. If it's NOT TRUE LOVE...it will not endure. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 7, 2009 Share Posted February 7, 2009 I've tempered a tenacious belief in love with a reality check that it takes more than love to have a healthy relationship. Yes, I was an OM (and later a WS) and that love and devotion has mutated and endured long enough to see grandchildren meet the world. Good luck on your path Link to post Share on other sites
TOWinNYC Posted February 7, 2009 Share Posted February 7, 2009 I've re-written this post so many times!!! But all I want to say is.... If Love between two people is real.... it will make itself be real... everyday of your life. No marriage certificate or vows or family or community pressure can alter the fact that Love will find a way. It will hurt, it will cause the most devastating pain to all involved...but if it's Love... then it will find a way. And Love will make it so that the Love can endure. If it's NOT TRUE LOVE...it will not endure. YES YES YES! I completely absolutely AGREE!!! Why do people have trouble believing that? Is it because they haven't experienced it? Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 8, 2009 Share Posted February 8, 2009 I think that love may find a way, but love doesn't hurt anyone as it finds it's way. Link to post Share on other sites
jj33 Posted February 8, 2009 Share Posted February 8, 2009 It sounds like congratulations are in order I hope you will be very happy. What is behind the cryptic post? Were you having an affair and he has just gotten divorced? Have you married? Link to post Share on other sites
awkward Posted February 8, 2009 Share Posted February 8, 2009 Congrats... I think. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 8, 2009 Share Posted February 8, 2009 If it was true love, why did it take 5 years? In all honesty if two people love eachother THAT much and one is already married, it shouldn't take 5 years to work it out to finally get together. Link to post Share on other sites
TOWinNYC Posted February 8, 2009 Share Posted February 8, 2009 If it was true love, why did it take 5 years? In all honesty if two people love eachother THAT much and one is already married, it shouldn't take 5 years to work it out to finally get together. WWIU - why not? What difference does it make if it takes 5 minutes or 5 years for two people to get together? What was said was that TRUE LOVE PREVAILS and if it doesn't it wasn't. Life is complicated and not necessarily black & white (as much as we'd like it to be). The older I've gotten, I've found that a) life gets funnier and b) it gets more complicated - and the complications are the various shades of gray. Link to post Share on other sites
angryyoungman70 Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 WWIU - why not? What difference does it make if it takes 5 minutes or 5 years for two people to get together? What was said was that TRUE LOVE PREVAILS and if it doesn't it wasn't. Life is complicated and not necessarily black & white (as much as we'd like it to be). The older I've gotten, I've found that a) life gets funnier and b) it gets more complicated - and the complications are the various shades of gray. You are a wise man. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 I find it hard to imagine how anyone could love a person who cheated and lied to another. You have to have respect, it is a must, and how can you respect a liar and cheat? Link to post Share on other sites
Reggie Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 Guess you will see if this is true. I suspect the WS's spouse may have thought the same thing at one point. Now, back to my Daniele Steele book. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 WWIU - why not? What difference does it make if it takes 5 minutes or 5 years for two people to get together? What was said was that TRUE LOVE PREVAILS and if it doesn't it wasn't. Life is complicated and not necessarily black & white (as much as we'd like it to be). The older I've gotten, I've found that a) life gets funnier and b) it gets more complicated - and the complications are the various shades of gray.[/quote] Funny you found out life is gray, and I found out it only gets gray when we want it to. Black and white all the way baby:D Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 WWIU - why not? What difference does it make if it takes 5 minutes or 5 years for two people to get together? What was said was that TRUE LOVE PREVAILS and if it doesn't it wasn't. Sometimes true love isn't enough. Obviously.. You may have your MM now finally but in another 5 years, what if he falls inlove with someone else, finds true love all over again? Never say never... I bet his first wife never thought he'd leave her.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 I think it is fine to leave a partner when you do not love them and want to be with them anymore but to have an affair behind their back is deplorable and makes the person untrustworthy. I would find it impossible to love a man who could lie and cheat so easily, especially if I had witnessed the deceit first hand! Link to post Share on other sites
HIS OTHER ONE Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 If it's NOT TRUE LOVE...it will not endure. I so believe this. Maybe since I am in that situation ( 4 & 1/2 years now) I do believe. But also the older I get, I do understand that sometimes life cannot be as simple as we wish..... and Lishy you seem angry.....bitter . Link to post Share on other sites
Reggie Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 I so believe this. Maybe since I am in that situation ( 4 & 1/2 years now) I do believe. But also the older I get, I do understand that sometimes life cannot be as simple as we wish..... and Lishy you seem angry.....bitter . I believe this, as well. Three of the last Harlequin romance novels I read demonstrated this very thing.:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 and Lishy you seem angry.....bitter . How did you work that one out then? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sdc Posted February 28, 2009 Author Share Posted February 28, 2009 I think that love may find a way, but love doesn't hurt anyone as it finds it's way. This is simply not true! in any situation. Don't be so naive and generic! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 This is simply not true! in any situation. Don't be so naive and generic! I think BNB means without the affair drama, the fallout, the lying and deceiving, the hiding and knowingly hurting another person's marriage for your own benefit. She (BNB) wasn't talking about regular relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 True love doesn't make cryptic posts and hide in the shadows. It states what it is and who it is up front for all the world to see. And I certainly agree with the others that it doesn't take 5.5 years of seeing each other continuously to FINALLY show up either. Somebody is phishing..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author sdc Posted February 28, 2009 Author Share Posted February 28, 2009 I think BNB means without the affair drama, the fallout, the lying and deceiving, the hiding and knowingly hurting another person's marriage for your own benefit. She (BNB) wasn't talking about regular relationships. I think you have been here too long WWIU:-).....many many people have moved on.... life goes on.... it really does!... and whether the MM and OW end up together is immaterial to my specific post...my post was a genuine statement of my interpretation of what life is like If Love is real... it finds a way.... Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 I think you have been here too long WWIU:-).....many many people have moved on.... life goes on.... it really does!... and whether the MM and OW end up together is immaterial to my specific post...my post was a genuine statement of my interpretation of what life is like If Love is real... it finds a way.... You aren't making any sense. You state that 5.5 years in, you are FINALLY together because real love always finds a way. Now you state that the MM and OW finally getting together is immaterial to your post. Doesn't make any sense at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 sdc, i just hope you can trust him, if you can are a better women than I!! Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 I think you have been here too long WWIU:-).....many many people have moved on.... life goes on.... it really does!... and whether the MM and OW end up together is immaterial to my specific post...my post was a genuine statement of my interpretation of what life is like If Love is real... it finds a way.... As was my post. Genuine and my interpretation of what life is like.....True love doesn't hurt anyone as it finds it's way. Especially children. It doesn't matter that you believe WWIU has been here too long, it is after all only your interpretation. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 How anyone can find happiness at the cost of someones unhappiness is beyond me. Bragging about the fact is even more classless. I can not even comprehend what the OP is so happy about! She won the prize? More like the booby prize! Cheaters are not attractive and I worry the OP will be feeling like the wife one day! Link to post Share on other sites
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