unsure what to do Posted February 10, 2009 Share Posted February 10, 2009 My husband of 11 years cheated on me for 4 months. I knew he was doing this but decided to ignore it. The person he cheated with finally told me because she decided to end things with him. She was ending it because she could no longer do it to me. We had met and she liked me so much that she could not continue the affair or so that is what she says. She is married with 2 kids of her own but at the time she had the affair with my husband they were seperated. They are now back together and he has no idea that she cheated on him while they seperated. I asked my husband several times if he was having an affair with her and he always denied it. I knew he was, I even caught him at her house but he said he was just visiting her. We all work at the same place which makes it a very unconfortable situtation. I really like this girl until she had the affair with my husband. We could have become really good friends. She says she regrets doing it. The affair started before we met. She said if she had met me first then she would have never allowed it to happen. The problem I am having now is that my husband is still talking to her. I asked him to stop but he will not. He says they are just friends and they made a mistake. I confronted her about it and that is what she says. They are just friends and it will never happen again. I have trouble trusting them. I don't know what to do. She wants to try to become my friend agian. She said that we should take things slow and see what happens. I am so confused. What should I do. I love my husband but I feel if he really cared for me he would not talk to her again but at the same time I really like her. I think I must be crazy...Maybe i need to go to a therapist. I did onece before but it didn't seem to help. If anyone has any ideas let me know.. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted February 10, 2009 Share Posted February 10, 2009 Tell OWH now. He should have been told. How do you really know that the affair is over? Do not tell anybody that you are going to do this... the more people at one time, the bigger the surprise. Take your husband out of fantasy land. Link to post Share on other sites
hunkahunkaburninlove Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 If it is over, it could start up in a hot second again. Complete N/C, and nothing less. Link to post Share on other sites
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